Having to postpone and kind of upset at the lack of response?

I totally understand how you feel and I empathize. But I offer a different perspective, friends, family and collègues have been bombarding me with calls and messages asking how am I holding up which has been giving me more anxiety. I actually want to be left alone. It’s possible that your friends and family do not want to trigger any emotions by reaching out and instead are opting to give you space to breathe. If you cope better by having conversations with people, then I would say go ahead and spark up a conversation with people so they can give you what you need. My mom, sisters, father and friends are all nyc doctors and nurses in the city and If any one of them get another phone call asking how are the holding up, they could explode. Everyone is different and they may not know how to address you. Personally, I would not reach out to any frontline workers or brides asking how they are holding up at this time. If anything I might send a text saying I’m thinking of you or share a funny meme to gauge if they have the energy or mental capacity to engage in conversation. Because I know those words are a trigger for me and my family, I appreciate when people allow me process having to postpone and reschedule without me recounting the same sob story to 150 guests. Hope this helps you see the other side. Best of luck to you and I wish you comfort and peace.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I feel like maybe you’re right and they don’t know what to say - and maybe I’m a more sensitive person but I’ve been all about them and their big days. For one of my sisters I did everything for her day - even reschedule my wedding. And for another bridesmaid - i always check in and ask how her wedding planning for October is going and if she needs anything. She is more of a selfish person by nature so I didn’t expect much from her but the other bridesmaids and my sisters I really expected them to put themselves in my shoes and check in on me when I am down!

View Quoted Comment I totally get that mindset as well - for some reason not a single person has ever asked how I was holding up even in regards to work before we postponed the wedding so it’s all just sort of weird. Maybe I was craving a little attention or just expect people to care in the same way I do which isn’t always fair to them.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I am glad I posted and I am so sorry you aren’t getting positive reinforcement from your bridesmaids - luckily mine aren’t causing stress but I have had zero help during the now three weddings I have planned 😂🤍 and I’m still over here offering them help and advice I think maybe people are just different in how they think they are being helpful? I hope...

View Quoted Comment Melissa, I hear you trust me, but understand the whole entire world is freaking out and holding their breathe. I would not take it personal. After the pandemic is over, or when you feel comfortable reach out and have a conversation to assess whether people didn’t care about you versus being consumed by fear and anxiety and unintentionally not realizing they haven’t spoken to you. Alot of people aren’t holding up okay and just don’t know how to cope with life right now. I would grieve your old wedding date but not harbor any ill feelings towards anyone at this time. Life is short and it’s not worth it. I’m sorry you feel this way, but just know people do care about you, even folks you’ve never met are thinking about you and praying for your safety from afar. Things will be okay and will get better. And the new wedding date will be better than what you have planned. Because unlike many other brides, who are willing to buy their loved ones at risk because of pride, you are making a selfless decision and doing the right thing by postponing and waiting this tragic time out. You will prevail Melissa. I really believe that!

View Quoted Comment I’m definitely not resentful just sad - and even when they were notified of me having to postpone yet again or those that were aware of my position in the ER not a single one has checked in it just seems like maybe I’m more alone than I thought. So maybe not acknowledging the day of but two months ago when I postponed and notified people maybe if they offered condolences or to help or any type of emotion I’d feel a little less sad

View Quoted Comment Yes, i tend to drop everything for the people i care about but it isnt the same in return. It sucks but at least the girls on this forum are super helpful at keeping spirits up , sympathizing and offer wonderful advice. This is where ive found most of my support in all the planning and even non wedding related

Honestly with the crazy times we live in right now, I am sure it just slipped their minds. I am sorry for that though, trust me I know it is difficult with rescheduling your wedding. I keep rescheduling mine around my brothers deployment return date.

View Quoted Comment 🤍🤍🤍 I’m sure that’s it

View Quoted Comment I appreciate this board a lot more now! Thank you so much

You are not being a baby about matters. Your feels are valid.

I had to postpone my shower. Instead of a single word from my "Bride Tribe" to acknowledge the original day, my Matron of Honor told me that she wouldn't feel comfortable coming to the postponed shower that was literally over one month later. And she didn't realize that my wedding was the next weekend on June 6th and that also wouldn't feel comfortable to come then either.

What a way to honor that day! Lol

So I mourned my day but then I turned it around and celebrated it by getting up and dressed riding around the countryside and got some take out ramen from my favorite spot.

You and your fiance gotta be your own biggest cheerleader at this point. Check on each other with no expectations from others. Hopefully you will get the support you need when it's your time but people truly show their colors when it's your turn to get married or the attention isn't on their vision for things. Hang in there but even it's an emotional rollercoaster, you'll still be marrying your biggest cheerleader, your love.

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Yeah, ugh! I would be pissssssed! Haha.
If it makes you feel any better I'm currently stuck in Canada while my partner is in LA. I've had two flights cancelled... hoping I can get back June 1st now... eek! Fingers crossed! Also, our wedding is in England and as of right now they won't postpone our date... so stressful.

View Quoted Comment I am hoping everything works out for you 🤍🤍🤍 I am so sorry you are stuck without flights and unable to postpone I would be a wreck. I hope you get back ASAP to see your partner! I can’t imagine that stress - stay safe!

View Quoted Comment Bianca I am so sorry she states she isn’t comfortable and isn’t there to be rooting for you! I hope your day is beautiful and everything you wanted! I do see more true colors coming through and it is unfortunately not the colors I expected from those close to me!

Hey there, I'm kind of going through what you are too. I'm supposed to get married August 29th & I'm about 90% sure we will not be proceeding with the ~130 person wedding reception we have been planning. My bridesmaids have been kind & talking to me about it, but my parents have not. Its been so disappointing to not have them reach out to us & show their sympathy/support, especially since I've been planning for almost 2 years! What matters most is the health & safety of all of our loved ones, so while I'm feeling a little bummed I just keep telling myself that love always wins.

First of all, thank you for being a nurse, dont get paid enough! Secondly those situations are all kinds of depressing and would bum anyone out but the phrase take the good with the bad, goes with everything, especially weddings! So she made a backhanded statement, but you agreed on the invitation, which is a stepping stone, with your SO when you both liked it, win. So you postponed then coronavirus, but you both survived together when separation( or at least the want) rates sky rocketed. Think of when this blows over and you have a, all be it, slightly exaggerated, tale of heroism, perseverance, love, all with a kick as party at the end to tell poeple when you guys are old together! My grandma would find a way to make this a story for the books( her story's were wild!).

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much