Has anyone changed their wedding plans. Then eloped.

Yes ma'am. Planned a proper wedding, ppl were unreliable. Mother and future MIL showed zero interest. Was extremely hurt. Convinced FH to elope but he says he really wants his parents there. They have been married for 50 years and he will be their first child to get married. I caved in and now we will be having 4 guests. His parents and my mom and her bf.

I think the best thing you can do at this point is to take a little “you” time. Take some time away from wedding planning stress, and just focus on yourself & relaxation for a while. It looks like your wedding isn’t until January 2022, so you have lots of time- Don’t stress! After taking a small break from everything, I would sit down and ask yourself “Down the road, will I be disappointed that I eloped and didn’t have my dream wedding?” If you can honestly say you would not be disappointed, then there’s your answer! If you feel that you would be disappointed, then you can start planning your wedding again. Set a strict budget, and make a list of things to do in order of importance and just take each item one at a time.

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Well thanks i feel better now. i can ask with confidence.

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Thanks I will do that . i think that will really work.

Eloping seems like a premature idea since you have until 2022. So I’m sure you’ll be fine. I often say that wedding planning is only as hard and stressful as you make it. Do you have your venue and vendors booked? Have you written out a clear and detailed vision of how everything should look (and a list of every item needed to execute the vision)? What are the specific areas that you’re struggling with?

I agree with Chrysta. Wedding planning can be stressful and overwhelming but you have plenty of time. Give yourself a little grace, take a time out from planning, and make this decision outside of your current emotions. If you decide that eloping is the way to go, go for it. On the other hand, if eloping isn’t what you want to do, consider hiring a planner. Sometimes, you have to pay for the help you need/want. It doesn’t have to be too expensive if you do your research and can make it work in your budget, but they can provide the help you need/want and help you bring your vision to life. Don’t stress - you can do this. Woosah!! 😊

I think your getting way to ahead of yourself, your wedding isn't for another two years, so try not too worry about it too much. I recommend you take a few month break on wedding planning, don't think about anything having to do with the wedding for the next few months, and just take things one step at a time. No point in planning and booking things when you're stressed out like this. I recommend just booking your venue or just taking a break. Better yet, maybe try planning something more fun instead, like your engagement shoot, nothing was more fun for me than getting the chance to plan the shoot, find the right photographer, pick out the clothes, etc.

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much I will try