I am feeling like a pretty flakey bride at this point. With COVID- I have scaled down my wedding a bit and originally told my caterer we were going from 100 people to 30, then I had to tell her the final count was 45. I feel so bad because that’s a pretty big difference. My videographer also wanted to expand our package an extra half hour so at first I agreed to it, but doing the timeline a little more I don’t think we need the extra 30 minutes and we don’t really have flexibility for the extra costs either. I am just feeling so wishy washy! Has anyone else experienced this? I feel terrible about it
I think it's totally normal, given the COVID scenario! With state restrictions constantly changing (either loosening or tightening), it makes sense that your plans also have to change with them. And with many guests waiting until last minute to make a decision on whether to attend, it's hard to get an accurate count until right before the event (and even then, some people may still change their minds). Just continue to keep your vendors updated with your latest plans, I'm sure they understand that everyone needs to be a little more flexible in these times.
I agree with PPs- it is completely normal... especially with Covid. Your vendor details are changing because you are having to be flexible with all these changes due to Covid. I wouldn’t call is wishy washy- you are just adapting.
Yeah I definitely felt this, even before COVID when we initially booked vendors. They asked a lot of detailed questions and I said eh we probably don't need that and later on was like heyyyy nevermind, I want that lol. Now with the pandemic and moving the big wedding to next year and having a minimony in two weeks, I've been all over the map on what I want. Like, "I want the minimony to be lowkey but also I want everyone to be dressed up for pictures, and I don't want dinner to be overly fancy but I also want a grand cake for cutting, etc." So yeah, I feel you haha.
So my friend was the videographer and photographer and I didn’t pay her. I only paid for her flight and rental car which was about $400 and she did great don’t get me wrong! Like the stuff came out nice but I also feel like there were moments missed ... 😫
Yes! I am right there with you. I go from feeling super excited about a vendor to not really trusting them or doubting their suggestions altogether. I think COVID really threw a wrench in many people's plans and I know for me, it's made me question every decision.
It helps to talk to other people about your doubts and get their perspective. Whenever I'm stressing out, I text my fiancé about it and just getting it out there feels good.
I hope that as your day gets closer, you start to think about the magic of your wedding and less about the logistics!