Has anyone else wanted to call off the wedding and just elope?

Ah FMS i am sorry you are going through all this...i understand your pain. at the end of the day i had to realize people will compare because that is just human nature but you need to do what yall want! and honestly alcohol can be pretty expensive...

i think you need to take a little time and do NO wedding planning (trust me i got to a breaking point and just needed to take some space haha) you still have some time so dont stress just let it go for a few days. you will feel SO much better! and your brain will feel a little cleared (i constantly felt like i had a cloudy brain haha)

no matter what, its true you will be married, enjoying the honeymoon together. and I THINK you will have a gorgeous wedding, especially after seeing your DIYs D dont get discouraged girl! if you ever need to vent you can always vent to me

I think about it daily. FH wanted the wedding, so we are doing the wedding, and I'm just hoping it will all be worth it!

I wanted to elope before the wedding planning even started, but then FH started talking about how we would still have to have a reception of some style when we got back so it kinda defeated the purpose in my opinion.

@O&S and pleaseeee tell me what DH means...i am so confused and have seen if everywhere lol

@FMW, DH means Dear Husband. To the OP, I haven't had that feeling yet but who knows what will happen in the next couple of months

Hahaha i have been WONDERING for months thanks guys

oh how i love my DH

It happens.... we talked about it, too, on the days when I was overwhelmed with planning, or ran into issues I was too tired to deal with (which were all minor in the long run).

But the work that went into our wedding was completely worth it! We had the most magical wonderful day ever! It's been 4 days and I am still just swimming in happiness!

Hang in there!

I wanted to elope and not tell anyone. And then someone was like, "So ... y'all are next!" or one of those dumb comments I could just play along. But I'm private like that. And buy a house with all the money we spent.

But DH wanted to give his mom the wedding and recognition that she didn't get with her other kids. And a son who thinks of his mom as a queen, though expensive, is a good thing so *sighs* wedding.

But I thought about eloping. Every. Single. Day. And about, eh a week out, DH was sitting in the living room, watching TV and suddenly said, "I'm not saying that I regret it ... but ... we really could have a house right now." So I mean, technically I win, right?

In the end, wedding was beautiful and so much fun and I can truly say I wouldn't have it any other way. Hang in there!

I had the desire to elope when planning got pretty intense. From the other side, I can say that I'm glad we didn't do that. Just keep pushing!

@Shelby haha i thought the same thing about the house...

I am trying my best to not compare my wedding to hers. We are 2 totally different people and I know his family understands that. His mom has been the one to put it in my head. She will say things like (we will call his sister Sally) for Sally's wedding we did this and had this. I am like well we are having a totally different wedding. FH is freaking out about money and well then I freak out. I am trying to calm myself down. Thank you ladies for the advice!

Yes, I thought that many times. I had many headaches from FMIL, FSIL, my mom, money in general… the list goes on.

A DJ/entertainer is a very important part of the wedding – he/she is the one that keeps that party going. Make sure that you choose wisely in his department.

HOWEVER, do what works for you and FH – do not compare your wedding to anyone else's – they have different resources and expectations from you.

Just because you are married at 4 does not mean that the DJ has to start at four. Have someone you trust run the music for the ceremony and make a nice playlist for the cocktail/dinner hour. Have the DJ begin his paid time when you have your first dance – several hours AFTER the wedding. If this is not an option – keep looking for other DJs! There are plenty out there. Don’t rule out Craigslist, look at reviews on here and The Knot, call the local Chamber of Commerce (they were very helpful when I was looking for vendors).

And, YES, you two being married is the most important thing. You don’t NEED hours and hours of dancing after dinner. If the party ends earlier, so be it! Have your DJ announce that there is be an after party at XX location or that you two will be having breakfast at XX location and people are welcome to join. There’s nothing wrong with a shorter reception – especially when you’re not having alcohol

Aw I'm sorry. I think a lot of the frustration comes in because you're the single point of seemingly everyone else's expectations. It's hard when you have so many people to please. Do what's best for you and own it. Remember that in the end your memories of it all will matter more than everything else. People will get over things that didn't work out as well as they had expected for them.

Every. Single. Day. I wanted to elope from the get go. However FH wanted a large wedding.

Thanks Sarahdell that made me feel better! Janeen I think that is exactly what it is! At the end of the day as long as FH and I are happy then it will have been a great day!

If you don't want a big bar you could have a signature drink only for the few who want it. Like sangria or a special martini or whatever your favourite is. As saradell said I would use an iPod for a dinner/cocktail hour then get the DJ to start later.

Try to relax, I have been wanting to elope pretty much since I bought the dess

I keep repeating "I love my family" and "if I killed them I would totally get caught"

I thought about it as soon as he engaged. Before we got engaged, FH told me he wanted us to have a ceremony, to make vows in front of our friends and family. I initially had envisioned something small, once I told my parents, that went out the window completely. At this point, I go between wanting to run to Atlantic City and just embracing the fact that I'm a BRIDE! I agree with Sarahdell, just because the reception is over, the party doesn't have to be. Our ceremony will start at 5pm and the reception will end at 10pm, I know my friends will definitely after-party! At the end of the day, it is YOUR day, not Sally's.

I constantly want to, but I'm so far into planning and have so few things left to do, I am finally getting excited about out wedding and the day, and feeling less dread, mainly because most things have come together pretty easy. I might change my mind when I finally send out invited in Feb and have to deal with RSVPs

Yes! After my mom passed in April and then in July FMIL started being batshit crazy and told us they weren't coming to our wedding. When FH reached out to them in Sept to try and move forward she then sent another email personally attacking me in it. Now he just doesn't care that they aren't coming and doesn't care if they were in their life. If I didn't have the vision of the wedding I wanted and us already having money down I'd totally go and elope.

@FMW I am becoming more and more convinced we're the same person every day. =D