Half-dressed wedding guests

Really, you can't. People will wear what they like, and that's not your place to tell them what to wear. If you are worried about what they will wear, then don't invite them.

Otherwise, there's nothing you can (nor should you) do. A little cleavage and leg never scarred anyone for life.

They are not half dressed, they are dressed in a way that feels appropriate and sexy to them.

Dresses can be expensive. Some people don’t have the money to buy a dress for someone’s wedding so they wear what they already own. Recently I went to a wedding where, I was pretty much given a checklist: no red or burgundy, white, navy, black and it had to be full length. I wasn’t even in the bridal party, after going to over 5 dress shops I found a black floral dress, that was floor length, and in my price range. It showed cleavage (most of the dresses did) but I bought it. The person giving me the list said no black, but I liked the dress, I wasn’t in the party, and honestly if I’m paying for it I’m going to wear what I want.

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What the heck??? Who does this?? I wouldn't go. That is insane.

If the wedding isn't at a place of worship, there's really no way not to be offensive in dictating what others wear. It does come off across as judgment, and body shaming, and a bit sexist-if that's the correct term-more of women shaming other women in men's views. Not okay. The simplest thing to do is not invite them.

View Quoted Comment I honestly had a mild mental break down because I had such a hard time finding a dress that I wouldn’t need alterations for. So I know now that for my wedding, as long as no one shows up in a wedding gown then they can wear whatever they please

I simply wouldn't invite anyone you think won't show up dressed appropriately. I wouldn't mention religion unless that is REALLY AND TRULY the reason. I wouldn't pull God into this if not the real reason. That just seems like bad mojo. LOL

I wouldn't take kindly to being told how to dress at all. l will follow the dress code if you list one (ex semi formal, formal, etc) but I'll pick whatever I want that I feel falls into that category.

So, once...again. I am not judging peoples bodies (never said anything close to that) however if I am sitting next to you at a formal wedding and I can see the beginnings of your nipple area because your dress is so low or at the right angle a person can see up your dress because its so short then that is a problem. And if you go to a wedding (which in my mind is a religious affair) then that is another issue as well. I will take some of the good advice I did receive here and include a note as well as perhaps word of mouth that the attire will be formal/conservative out of respect for the religious ceremony and occasion. Thanks!

Honestly, I literally judge what I'm going to wear based on how fancy the Wedding Invitation is. Maybe take that in to consideration. I was always told that growing up, and I know some of my other girlfriends go by the same thing.

View Quoted Comment Sorry. A wedding is a legal agreement.

If you arent getting married in a strict house of worship you don't get to dictate others clothing.

Also why are you staring at someone's chest if you don't want to see someone's chest?! Don't go looking for a nip and you won't see one

View Quoted Comment Weddings are not religious affairs. They can be, but at the base of it, they are legal agreements as MrsBdeG said. You can only tell your guests what to wear if it’s black tie, which it doesn’t sound like yours is. Based on the formality of your invitation and the venue for your ceremony/reception, your guests can figure out what to wear.

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Not all weddings are religious and it's a bit insensitive to insinuate that. Unless your specific venue has rules about modest dress, you can't state it on your invites or anything like that.

You don't like how someone dresses, oh well, get over it... It does come off as shaming when you put it that way.

View Quoted Comment Not all weddings are religious affairs lol I can guarantee you that my soon to be wife and I have 0 religious context in our wedding. It is a loving and legal binding of two people. Good luck with your guests attire

I would be offended if someone showed up to my wedding, which was outside of our church, dressed as described. It’s a holy place, for my husband & I & both of our families... whether you practice or not, I would be saddened that my guests couldn’t even respect my religious views, & dress modestly for MY EVENT THAT I INVITED THEM TO...

Now, I’m my eyes, that isn’t me judging my guests. That’s just asking them to wear something modest, because that is how we practice in our religion.
-Now if I had a beach wedding, and someone showed up with cleavege flashing, I wouldn’t give a single crap! It’s hot, & the beach is totally different from a house of worship.

View Quoted Comment A wedding isn’t just a legal agreement to A LOT of people, but okay..

View Quoted Comment Okay but someone else's beliefs don't dictate my behavior.

If your religion says how you have to dress that's one thing. I don't have to dress because you chose to believe something.

View Quoted Comment Okay, fair enough. But then you shouldn’t attend a wedding if you’re not going to be respectful to the bride & grooms RELIGIOUS beliefs, because in my religion, marriage is one of the holy sacraments. It’s the equivalent to a baby’s baptism. Would you feel confident wearing a much too short dress, & cleavege popping out everywhere to a baby’s baptism? You’re right, you don’t have to dress a certain way, but you also don’t have to attend if it’s that big of an inconvience for you to wear something modest for ONE day...

View Quoted Comment I've been to multiple church weddings (some even Catholic weddings) and weddings at temple. I dress how I choose to dress. I've only ever been to one wedding where the couple required women wear shaws and head coverings.

View Quoted Comment In your religion. Yours. It dictates your behavior.

Who determines what is too short? Who determines what's appropriate? I have DD. If I inhale too deeply I have cleavage.

Is it too much to not police your friends friends and family based on a book you believe in? Must you disrespect their beliefs because you believe one thing?