Hairstyles for bridesmsids

I chose to do this as my gift to my bridesmaids.

If you aren't requiring it to be professional, then you don't need to pay.

Typically you pay for hair/makeup if you are requiring they have it done/want it a certain way. I am paying for it as a gift to them.

If you are on a budget then I wouldn’t require them to have their hair professionally done.

As everyone else is saying, it's only wrong if you're requiring them to have their hair done. Make it optional and it's totally ok.

I also am gifting hair/makeup to my mom, moh, junior bridesmaid and flower girls. It was easier for me. However, I did not require anyone to get their HMUA done professionally.

Hi there Casandra

This is a great question!

If you require your bridesmaids to do something specific with their hair for the wedding day, you would be obliged to pay for this. If you’re not asking them to do something specific, and they can wear it as they wish, you would not be obliged. This also applies to makeup!

Is this clear? Let me know if you need any more clarification on the etiquette around this or anything else!

Is there something specific you want them to do with their hair?

I'm asking my bridesmaids to pay for their makeup but not their hair. I asked for makeup just so everyone has the same products on so there's like a universal look if that makes sense. As for hair, I didn't require them to get done professionally and they can do whatever hair style they want.

To make up for them paying for makeup I am paying for everyone's nails the day before the wedding.

So no it is not wrong to make them pay for it themselves. I would just try to pay for something for them in return.

No, you don't have to pay. I've been a bridesmaid where I was just told to "this is how mitch your hair will cost". It was fine with me. However, with ppl being all touchy these days, I guess its best not to require they get their hair done if you aren't paying.

If you're not requiring a certain style, then no. It's just me and 4 other girls and we're all the low-key types. We all agreed to pool our resources and DIY our hair and make up together.

First of all, brides cannot require anyone have their hair done, or done in a certain way. People do not cede control over their bodies when they become BM. That appears in so many posts on WW. ...There is no need for the whole bridal party to get ready together, with any of the costs of brunch or lunch or drinks together. No need to spend time together waiting for the hairdresser ir makeup person to do one person at a time. These costs do add up. No need for robes, or shirts, or little gifts. These are new things added in recent times, like tv reality show weddings. Traditionally, and WW and industry polls say half of bridal parties get ready mostly in a group. Which means, half don't. It is fine for BM to be entirely responsible for being groomed, hair and makeup and nails, before they show up, whether in hotel rooms, or their own homes. Up to them to make arrangements with a hairdresser, or a friend, or do things themselves. And also acceptable if you are mostly getting ready together, to say you will arrange a hairdresser for yourself, and ? Mothers , whoever. And it is their choice to pay that person to do them, or take care of it themselves. Although we were all staying in an inn, and it saved no money since we paid the rooms for each bridal party person and their SO, we chose to all get ready in our own rooms, separately, and be ready for group pictures at a certain time. A couple people, including MIL, had one of her son's wives, a hairdresser, set and comb out their hair. My mom, and 3 of my 4 bm and MOH have for years worked in jobs requiring picture perfect hair and makeup every time at work. So they took care of their own. It please them, and me, most, because it took me under an hour from starting shower to putting on gown. And less than 1¼ hour after we started, all done. No waiting for turns. We all did what we wanted for meals, and social time, all day. Some leaving to go to a local town with SO for lunch. All at Inn 1½ hours before ShowTime, all well rested, a few in bed til 10-10:30, leisurely day. Some up early, took early afternoon naps. So where your budget is a concern, it is fine to pay only for yourself but have those who ask for it pay. Or have them all take responsibility for themselves, and you arrange for you. And if you only want pics of putting on accessories, veil, jewelry and flowers for getting ready pics from a photographer, or just smartphone candid to save photographer's hours, you need not pay any costs of getting ready. That is an extra splurge, if all want the group thing. But not traditional, and not necessary. Some people like 5-6 hours of constant togetherness, abandoning SO. Some hate it, and would prefer to do their own thing, or 1 family or friend only with bride. Entirely your choice. Paying hair for everyone, buying robes, buying brunch or drinks early in the day, can easily add $750 or more to your budget, for 4 people. None is necessary for you to pay but your own hair and makeup , if you or a friend do not do it.