guilt for having a wedding?

It's ridiculous to spend that much for a wedding. You should just go to the courthouse and get married.

Me-

My Dad kept telling me that 5k was too much money to spend on one day. Grandpa said to just make hotdogs for everyone.

Everyone else was like just do it at so and so's church to save money. It was only because no one is able to help financially and they don't wanna say it (Dad later said he's helping with honeymoon though).

YES! And the sad part is it's coming from people who would spend 50 grand on a wedding themselves! Literally my FSIL said "I wish your wedding was this October so it could be over with"

Yes! My dad & stepmom don't understand why I want to spend money one day. They mentioned just going to a park and standing there with a couple people in a pretty dress. 15 minutes, $100 and we are done.

They keep telling me that the money could go toward a house payment...

Yes, it could. But I want a wedding! I'm only getting married once!

No one is saying that to me. But sometimes I wish we had eloped. Starting to get excited now that almost everything is DONE.

It always baffles me how people always seem to vocalize their opinion on something that doesn't affect them one bit.

Your money. Your wedding. Your life.

But it's such a pain to deal with the endless comments of how it "should" be done. Just know we feel your pain.

I've thankfully only gotten that from one guy. He constantly tells me how weddings are a waste of money and how the wedding industry is jacking up prices and such. I just let him talk and don't listen. I think he's bitter because he's never been married. Don't let Debbie Downers make you feel guilty.

Ignore them it's not about them anyway its whatever you want

My FMIL has made several comments about how it's stupid to spend so much money on a "party" and comments like that. No one on my FH's side of the family has ever really had a big wedding though. They have all been JOP weddings or potlucks in fire halls or park weddings. She's even started complaining about having to buy a new dress for the wedding because she doesn't have anything "fancy" enough.

You just have to ignore the comments and the eye rolls and do what you want to do.

I understand. So many people are saying it's a waste of money for one day. Others think I'm being too thrifty. You can't win for losing. Just plan the wedding you want. There will always be a Negative Nancy or Debbie Downer that will talk crap about your wedding plans.

I work for a medium sized nonprofit organization. Sometimes I think about what we could do with the amount of money I'm spending on my wedding and I cringe a little....

and then I get over it. Generosity and wise spending are not enemies of special occasions. I can afford a wedding and I can still afford to be generous with my time and money. Hope your family backs tf off and lets you enjoy this time and that day!

Can't please them all. As long as you're happy, then F them. I don't know why people think their opinions matter so much.

I get the "You should be spending this money on a down payment for a house, not a wedding." Like I can have a wedding if I want a wedding.

Unwanted opinions are the worst

You just can't make everyone happy. I don't understand why people feel the need to be negative about a wedding, but whatever. My hubby's family were the ones making comments about cost/having simple wedding/ect. Even though they did not pay for any part of it.

Literally had this conversation the other day with my uncle. Don't care though - at the end of the day, if you have the money, it's none of their business to tell you how to spend it.

No guilt trips but I think everyone is surprised we wanted a wedding.

I feel like the older generation think we're spending a lot on our wedding bc things are just so much more expensive and standards are much higher. Thankfully my 2 cousins are having much more extravagant weddings so it kind of puts mine in perspective!

Yep. All kinds of passive aggressive comments about being married before. My reply "it's what we want and we are grown adults who can afford it"...then my petty tail mentally crossed them off the guest list and open bar

Why are people like this though?

Omg YES!!!! My family agreed to help with whatever I wanted (I'm the only girl on my moms side and the first to be married on both my mom and dads side) but every time I bring something up about the wedding I get the "I don't know why you can't just get married in our pastors study like we did" I was able to shrug and laugh it off but now I'm getting it from everyone and it's getting super annoying and very stressful! Wish they would stick a cork in it lol