Guests you don't know at your wedding?!?

We are paying so it's our list.

Our parents aren't inviting anyone. It's our wedding and we're paying for it.

We tried to invite some of FH's parent's friends but in order to be able to afford to properly host we could not invite their friends. Since this is my second marriage my parents didn't ask to invite any of their friends.

I just asked my in laws for a list of who they wanted invited, I invited who they wanted and there were only 2 family members there I hadn't met before, they didn't give me a huge list, it was really reasonable thank god

The only people on my list know either me or him. There will be no strangers at this wedding. Neither of our parents are paying anything.

Um. NO. If they are not paying, NO

If they are contributing financially, they absolutely get to invite a few guests. If you don't want that, decline their money offer.

My parents contributed to the wedding so they each invited a few friends, all of which I knew though. H's parents didn't invite anyone outside of immediate family

I know every single guest we invited! That was my rule with the guest list, they have to know me and FH! My FMIL wanted to invite some people that I had never met, I said no because if they haven't met me and we've been together for 9 years, why would I want them there on such a special occasion?!

My mom is paying, and basically inviting everyone she knows. I think 40 friends? She figures we don't have a lot of family, so these count as family. FILs didn't invite friends, but did invite a lot of family. We definitely had to upgrade our venue.

Is your wedding you should control the invitation. My FH and I did the list only people we know is coming small wedding 35 quest.

12 sounds generous. If you can accommodate that number, go with it. Since they are paying for some of it you should give them a few. I don't think it would be bad to decrease that number even if you are talking about people you have never met.

We're paying our own way so we're dictating the guest list.

I mean we let our parents invite whoever they wanted, which I guess I am thankful they did not go crazy with it.. my FMIL just wanted to invite a few people from her work, and My Dad & FFIL did not want to invite anyone else.

There are some of our parents' friends on our list, but we have met them/know them somewhat too. There aren't any who are absolute strangers to us.

I would not want someone there I did not know... how could they be genuinely happy for you?

My parents didn't even try to start to invite people I didn't know and neither did FILS. I obviously haven't sent any sort of invite out yet but the guest list has been created and I've met every person on it.

My parents are inviting some of their close friends, some I know some I don't know. And I am ONLY allowing it because they have offered to pay for all of their guests.

If they didn't offer I would not have added them to the guest list.

None.

I think I'm pretty blessed that when I presented a guest list to my parents, they were understanding when I didn't want to invite extended family who I haven't seen in 5+ years. My mom's side is HUGE and there are so many cousins that I haven't seen in a long time and those who have never met my fiance (even in the 9 years we've been dating). I simply explained I wanted a small wedding of family and friends who know our relationship and know us and they were accepting of that. My fiance and I are assuming the financial responsibility for our wedding but we're also not against compromising with our parents.