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Guests who do not RSVP but show up

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Krista, on February 13, 2017 at 3:50 PM

We have an RSVP deadline for our destination wedding at the end of February. Some told other guests that they are going to wait to November to see if its cheaper and book last minute. The wedding group rate is already getting $400 off the current price. Although its an all inclusive wedding we have to pay for dinner plates, cocktail reception per person, servers on the day of the wedding and have to provide final numbers months in advance. we are making welcome package kits for each person who has RVSP, personalizing items etc. In addition we are paying for an organized day trip for all our guests off the resort with lunch those numbers I have to provide in advance, private shuttles to resort etc. Most importantly we are selecting the seating arrangements and are doing all the little details such as writing John on seashells with table number. I have a website explaining why we have RSVP and details. If guests show up without RSVP'ing what do you do? How do you handle it?

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Master November 2017
Vicki · on February 13, 2017 at 5:42 PM
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It's not a Canadian thing it's a tacky people thing.
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Master July 1867
OGJessieJV · on February 13, 2017 at 6:00 PM
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Where are travelling that you require visas that far in advance? My friends got married in Cuba several years ago, they stayed at an all inclusive resort and booked it two months out. Mind you they didn't need visas. Where are you going that requires visas? There's not a lot of places that Canadians need visas for as we are part of the Commonwealth!
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VIP May 2017
24kMagicWed · on February 13, 2017 at 6:02 PM
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Destination wedding give me headaches.
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Savvy March 2017
Tierney · on February 13, 2017 at 6:09 PM
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This situation sounds very panic-inducing. I'm sorry this is turning so stressful for you.

I'm in the process of reaching out to my non-responders because our rsvp deadline is coming up this week, and we're about to be busy with moving!

I know my situation isn't the same as yours but I relate to your feelings of "my life would be so much easier if people would just do what I wanted!" :p

From the deluge of responses, it sounds like your vendor may not be 100% on the up and up. I hope you can get that straightened out. If you have to bail on the DW, at least there's time to coordinate something locally.
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Helena Handbasket · on February 13, 2017 at 6:58 PM
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I wish OP would come back and answer the Canadians that gave some answers.........
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Super October 2017
Bethany Ann · on February 13, 2017 at 7:20 PM
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I agree with the previous posters UNLESS OP is paying for everything, including everyone's flights and hotel rooms. But I highly doubt that.

ETA: never mind. Reread the original post.
ETA: To answer your title, I can't imagine many people are going to come to your wedding.
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Master July 2017
A. L. · on February 13, 2017 at 7:30 PM
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This just seems like a huge scam to me.
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