Guests wearing white at wedding

I was never taught that it was wrong to wear white to a wedding, I just figured it out. It seems common sense to me.

It wouldn't bother me if a guest wore white to mine. They look like the dumbass, not me. However, since I found out that the best man's psycho girlfriend bought a white (LACE) dress and had him ask if it was ok to wear to the reception or rehearsal, I have changed my stance to say it wouldn't bother me if anyone BUT her wore one.

I would be pretty annoyed, just because I think when one person is wearing white they stand out more in the reception. At receptions I look for the white dress to find the bride, if I found someone else instead I would be shocked lol

I would be a little annoyed, but it wouldn't ruin my day. They would get a *lot* of dirty looks, I'm sure.

My mom wanted to wear white. Her old wedding dress actually. Obviously I said no.

I had 3 people wear white and one wore ivory. It irritated me a little bit but I guess it is what it is.

I think wearing a white shirt or a white dress with color on it isn't the end of the world. Sometimes you just have to let that go. On the other hand, a white lace dress (poor Maltese) or a white leisure suit (barf) is, in my opinion, just in poor taste. Obviously no one is going to confuse who the bride is, but I get where that comes from.

It didn't happen to me, but even if it did, I don't think I'd really care unless the person was wearing a full length bridal gown. Then we would have a dance off.

I always said if someone showed up to my wedding in white, I'd ask them to change (lol) cause I've always thought it was so disrespectful to the bride. I must say, now that I've been to many weddings, I don't feel the same. It would definitely bug me if someone shows up in white to my wedding but I feel like I'll be so busy & in wedding bliss that I won't hate them for it. I may shoot a couple dirty looks & feel judgey for a bit but I'm sure I'll get over it. Unfortunately, not everyone has common sense.

The only person who wore white, well ivory, to my wedding was my grandmother-in-law. It was a church outfit complete with hat. It didn't bother me, mostly because she is old and people knew she wasn't the bride.

No one else did it, but I did have one of girls that I mentor text me asking a few weeks before the wedding. I told her I didn't care too much (because I am a people pleaser), but told her other people might look at her funny. She wore red instead.

Question: What do you mean a man? Like a white shirt, or all white outfit?

You cannot control what other people wear, just like you can't control the weather. Be prepared for it just in case, but you probably won't even notice if you focus your attention on your wedding and not the attire of your guests. But that's just me.

@LadyMonk I just got visions of two brides doing a West Side Story style dance off lol. Thank you.

I was guilty of this once...for good reason. About 4 years ago FH and I were arguing a lot and trying to decide if we wanted to work it out or go our separate ways. He RSVP for 2 when we were still ok to a wedding that he went to college with the couple. The bride who had a crush on my FH in college (when FH said he wasn't interested she started dating her now H) told him to forget about me. She said she could hook him up with some of her single friends at the wedding. I was unimpressed considering she had NEVER met me before. So I wore this....

But usually I'm against it. I just think its common sense. But I don't have an issue with white dresses that have patterns. Just all white is a bit aggressive.

I had my bridesmaids in white, so it wasn't really a thing. There were plenty of white and ivory dresses BUT... I personally avoid it at weddings just to be safe. There are so many other colors to wear.

I went to a wedding of two men last week, and there was a hearty discussion beforehand of whether it would still be a faux paux to wear a white dress to a wedding of two men, both of whom were wearing black tuxedos. That one stumped me.

I was never taught not to wear white to a wedding and never really went to any weddings as a kid. I wore white to my cousin's wedding when I was 20 or 21, because I didn't know any better. It happens. I wouldn't mind if my guests wore white. No one else is going to be in a wedding gown aside from the bride so what difference does it make?

C&S, your mom wanted to wear HER wedding gown to YOUR wedding?

I am very anti white attire at weddings, and had three people wear white to my wedding. Obviously at the time it didn't bother me, and it didn't spoil my day, and I didn't feel the need to say anything, but it pisses me off that of all the things I *can't* remember about my wedding, I DO remember that.

People, don't wear white to weddings.

Melissa- that's pretty passive aggressive. I'd probably would have just not gone (and told FH he couldn't go either).

@Barbara...I find it even more rude to not go to a wedding after you RSVP yes. So I went, ate and got drunk. I actually had a blast. And FH and I weren't "doing great" so I wasn't really in the boat of telling him what he can and can't do. Actually I still don't tell him what he can and can't do, hes a big boy.

Like I said I don't normally and wouldn't do it again. And if someone did at mine whatever. Nothing I can really do and no one is going to show me up. I don't think its that serious. White with patterns is fine with me. Just an all white or white lace dress is aggressive but not everyone knows the "etiquette"

This conversation always reminds me of Kelly from The Office.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9F7v2KC1tT0

I see it every week; black, white, ivory....no one really bats an eye....

I see it every week; black, white, ivory....no one really bats an eye....

Eh, I can see how it is annoying in theory, but I can't imagine that the attire of my guests will be the first thing on my mind that day. Like someone else said, they're the ones who look like idiots, not me.