Guest wearing special colors

View Quoted Comment I can read. Thanks?

Lol why would I cry?? I’m not freaking out over a post, or replying in a negative or rude way. 🤷‍♀️

People go to ALL WHITE parties, ALL BLACK parties and any other ALL color specific party, but having a specific color at wedding is rude because it’s not traditional? What exactly makes it RUDE. That what really has me confused.
Rude does not equate to non-traditional in my eyes. If someone truly doesn’t want to wear the color, the simple and easiest thing to do is RSVP back that you can’t attend.

View Quoted Comment Ok, so what exactly was your point?

Wowza! This took a weird turn. I don't understand why you got so upset... She wasn't calling your mother juvenile, from my understanding she was saying the request itself seems juvenile.

To answer your question, yes, having different families wear different colors is seperating them instead of bringing them together. Very Capulet and Montague esque.

View Quoted Comment Which weird turn was that? A direction that was asked from the beginning? It’s upsetting again because multiple people jump down my throat yet didn’t answer the question.

Of course this is going to separate families more. By asking them to each dress in a different color, you’re bringing attention to the separation of the families- on a day that’s supposed to be about joining family together.

View Quoted Comment I did answer your question... But I don't see how this is a question, it's common sense. If you have everyone wear one color, fine, you do what you gotta do, but having his family dress in one color and yours in another clearly creates seperating, and I don't understand why you would want that seeing as a wedding is about union not seperation. No one jumped down your throat, you just took it that way. They were simply sharing that this is generally a no-go when it comes to wedding etiquette. Just as you stated that could have not commented, you could have simply read the comment and moved on taking it with a grain of salt. I say it took a weird turn because it seems things went from conversation to anger in a snap. I'm interested to know how you plan on coordinating this. Will you create seperating invites for each family or will you write an invite saying "If you are from the X family, you must wear blue, and if you are from the Y family, you must wear red" also, what about your non-family guests? Do they wear whatever or do they have a color code too? You know what! Better yet, have all of your guests buy two outfits! One for the ceremony to have the color they were assigned, and then change for the reception so everyone is the same color for the reception so you can show the unity is complete... Are you seeing my point here? Who cares what the guests wear! In the end it's about celebrating together not what everyone is wearing. But once again, it doesn't matter what any of us think, it's your day and you are going to do you. I just don't understand why you came here asking a question with an obvious answer and get upset when people share their opinion on the idea that

I once went to a wedding and we were all asked to wear beige...I thought it was really odd and was really annoyed I had to go out and buy a dress for it, and on top of it, struggled to find a dress BUT in the end I did and I have to say the pictures were awesome and I got where the bride was coming from. I don't think I would ever ask my guests to do it and it does seem unusual to be assigning people different colors but then again I had at first thought it was weird asking someone to wear a color at all and landed up liking it, so who knows, maybe she has a cool vision? However, I will say not everyone complied because they didn't want to buy a new outfit or couldn't find something...so if that's the case you should be understanding of people's limitations. Also, how would you feel if someone asked you to do that for their wedding and you had to buy a new outfit?

View Quoted Comment So you want them to not come if they can't conform to your color. I think I've heard it all now. I think if they planned on giving you cash then they should take the cost of the outfit they have to buy from it and put the receipt in your card.

You may be spending thousands in total, but you will only be spending a certain amount on each individual guest... So you would be expecting these guests to go out and buy a nice dress (which is usually at least $50) and THEN you want them to being you a wedding gift...? I just don't understand how you think it is a fair trade when they may also be traveling to get there.

Looks like your question has been answered. You can ask your wedding guests to wear particular colors. Since you don't care how it panned out for others, don't care if it's rude, don't care if it causes your nearest and dearest to decide not to come to the wedding, and don't care if people are talking about you in a negative way for years, there is nothing at all to stop you.

This got heated quickly, not sure why. to keep it simple, as a guest I would find this rude and wouldn't wear your chosen color. I have many nice, fancy dresses, and I'm not buying a new one just to fit some color scheme if I'm not in the wedding party. I'm not a prop for photos.

You may be spending thousands on a wedding and reception, but at the end of the day, the party is really all for you. Wedding guests, especially those coming in from out of town, spend a lot of money to celebrate with you. Why would you want to burden them by having them wear specific colors? It's not just the expense, it's also the time and the potential discomfort of having to wear something you're uncomfortable in.

Ultimately, you'll plan the party you want. Just don't be surprised if many of your guests don't appreciate being told what to wear.

I think this is way too picky. I would not seek out a specific color to wear to a wedding. Guests shouldn't wear white, but I don't think you can dictate beyond that.

Hi @soon2bsmith
I’m new to WeddingWire, and looked up guest colors because I recenrly went to 2 wedding that requested we wear certain colors. I think It’s a growing trend and no one seemed to have a problem with. It’s actually quite lovely, seeing the sea of picked colors looked great. One wedding we were requested to wear Black and Red. The second was Coral and Gray. Not everyone had the exact colors but it all blended.
Hope this helps! And I’m sorry you were attacked, I’m appalled by some of these comments; makes me second guess being on Wedding Wire.

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The only people who you should be telling what color to wear are those who are in your bridal party. Those people are your nearest and dearest so unless the entire guest list is standing up on the altar with you then no do not tell them what to wear color wise. If my sister was getting married and I wasn't in her wedding party and she said wear yellow or don't come I would call her a bridezilla and either wear hot pink or not go at all. You may be spending a lot on YOUR wedding which is YOUR choosing but the guests are also taking time out of their day and spending money to come and bringing you gifts. Don't be selfish.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Mallory. I do believe it’s very trendy right now.
And don’t let these comments and nastiness deter you from Wedding Wire. Welcome to the forums.

View Quoted Comment While I disagree, thank you for your opinion I guess.

I guess one thing to think about is this. What happens if someone shows up in the wrong color? Are you going to not them them come? Or are you going to be able to let it go? I just think it will be too much stress if it doesn’t work out perfectly.