Groomzilla..

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Beautiful venue by the way... no my FH is involved but he is no way a groomzilla, I found that wedding planning is teaching us a lot about compromise, it's a great learning experience for us, we've discussed everything, we disagree on a few things but we always find a way to compromise so we're both happy in the end. You and your FH have to start doing the same thing. Maybe bring in a third party, don't know if you guys did or plan to do couseling, that could help you both.

About the colors, i think they might be a way to go with your colors and just incorporate a few things with ice blue, I can't save pics on my computer to show you but if you google his colors and yours there are some great inspiration for both. Either colors could work fine. good luck

I saw this picture and wondered why not use white, gold, ice blue and black? That would solve the problem and look HOT!

http://mi9.com/wallpaper/ice-blue_1333/

LOL about the baby powder!! My groom is really not that much involved. We are doing a cake tasting on the 1st of Sept but for the most part I am doing the planning.

My fh is boring about it. i want him to be more involded all he cared about was his tux (has to be white) the day and cake for some reason he wants a HUGE one lol

I love the venue! Simply gorgeous! I wouldn't put up with a zilla period. When he gets that way, I would shut him down and tell him when he regains his composure, you will be there to listen. Don't put yourself through that.

We are both very careful how we have been talking to each other. Both parties know the other won't put up with the others $hit.

I don't think that having a man that wants a say in his OWN wedding makes him a groomzilla. Giving in on a color scheme that only has one variance in one of the colors is pretty minor. If you look around these forums, you'll see lots of posts from lots of people WISHING that their grooms would get involved at all! Learning to compromise is part of marriage, so just take it as a learning experience, and preparation!

I have no problem with him having a say in the wedding but I dont feel he should have all the say. It's not just his wedding! He is pretty much planning the wedding. He wants to pick out the dresses, he wants to pic out the tux, he wants to design the invitations, he wants to pick out the colors, the music, etc. I would like to have a say in something.

Jennifer I completely get what you mean. We had this thing going on where he would just veto everything I showed him without giving a reason except "I don't like it" but unlike your groom he was not actively finding anything different! So we ended up having a good long sit down where I made this wonderful car analogy and he finally got it! So now even if he doesn't like something (which is becoming more rare since I understand his style a little better) he gives me the reason and suggestions on how to make it better.

So use this time to understand his likes and dislikes -- to get a little more insight into your groom.

I've got an actively involved groom but my issue is more along the line of EDubbsGirl, I would not call him a groomzilla, but he's okay saying he doesn't like something without actively finding an alternative... not acceptable. I'd go with black and ice blue in the interest of peace and harmony. You can get a lot of different flowers in pale blue, do ice blue uplighting (your venue is perfect for uplighting!) in that room with black tablecloths, alternate chair sashes by row in the black and ice blue (if you are doing chair sashes).

Beautiful venue!!!!! My groom sounds like yours, I have very little input All decisions have been his (except my dress). Is a bit frustrating!!!!!

As far as I'm concerned, part of the function of wedding planning is that the couple works on negotiation skills that they will need for the marriage. A couple of things to think about in that regard:

1. Is he actually doing half the work of the planning (e.g., finding vendors, looking at pricing options), or is he leaving that up to you and then second-guessing your choices? If he wants his opinion to have the same weight as yours, he should be willing to do half the work.

2. Is he open to negotiation and compromise? For example, if he gets to choose the wedding colors, do you get to choose the DJ? If he gets his way on one thing and you get your way on another, that's fair. If he's insisting with regard to every choice that it's his way or the highway, he's likely to continue that in marriage, and you really need to think about whether you want to be married to someone like that.

My fiance is a bit of a groomzilla. I just roll with it because I've been married before, and I was never the type to dream up a fanciful wedding. But he has grand plans. He picked the colors. I had to tell him I was okay with him planning it all, but he needed to back theeell off my bridal party decisions and trust me. No big.

Perhaps white and gold can be your primary colors, with black & ice blue accenting. I love your venue. Gorgeous.

My fiance and yours seem to be on the same page! (I thought mine was the only one who actually cared about the girl's dresses!) Anyway, I'm a month and a a day away now, and I have to say... because he cares so much, he's also interested in helping. It's nice not to have all the weight on my shoulders. We have a long list left, and he's been helping with it. We're also not going to be those girls who complain 'cause our FH don't care enough! More than anything, our wedding is turning into a true reflection of the two of us, which I think means a lot. Lastly, I think if you have a highly-opinionated groomzilla to deal with, you'll know you can work anything out that challenges you during the marriage. (I have yet to test this obviously, but I can't imagine there's anything we can't tackle.) Hang in there and try to stay calm! It's tough, but you'll appreciate it in the end.

Jennifer, that sucks. Gorgeous venue, btw. My husband kept saying the whole time, "this is your day, I'll be your ken doll and do whatever. I just can't wait to be married." Our only compromise is that I went with colors he can SEE because he's colorblind. Maybe you should have your FHs eyes checked out.

Also, let me add my two cents about colors. I like to think of all colors on a grey scale. Light, medium, dark. The problem with ice blue and gold it that they're virtually the same shade of grey. Your color sceme is perfect. (Very similar to what I used.) Your medium shade needs to pop. It won't pop if there's two mediums competing.

Also, let me add my two cents about colors. I like to think of all colors on a grey scale. Light, medium, dark. The problem with ice blue and gold it that they're virtually the same shade of grey. Your color sceme is perfect. (Very similar to what I used.) Your medium shade needs to pop. It won't pop if there's two mediums competing.

Ugh ice blue....eek! But its true what the others are saying- be glad he cares and wants to be involved! Maybe compromise, you get your awesome color scheme, he gets to pick the clothes...

Awesome venue!!! I have to admit that my fiance probably views me as a groomzilla. This is my first and hopefully only marriage and I want it to be just as perfect as she wants it to be. Yes, I know it is her day, but it is also mine. A big thing for me has come down to I am the one really paying for this wedding, so I want some input.

What my fiance and I did was we each ended up getting to choose specific piece of the wedding that were most important to us. We came together with our top three choices for each of the pieces and then compromised with one of the 3 choices. It has worked out really well.

Don't forget ladies, it is his day too.

Looks like it's going to be a gorgeous venue! And there's definitely a difference between being involved and being difficult! I would definitely try and talk to him about how you're feeling. No one wants to feel pushed out of making decisions for their own wedding. and I'm guessing it could sting as a woman seeing as the "typical" guy just proposes and shows up on wedding day lol.

I'm fortunate enough to have an equally involved groom, but we're a lot a like. I've tweaked things to make him happy throughout the planning and vice versa. The only thing we are at odds on is the first dance ....but I have a lot of time to butter him up about that!