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C.C.
Super August 2017

Groomsmen RSVP Drama **UPDATE IN COMMENTS YOU WONT BELIEVE THIS*

C.C., on June 19, 2017 at 12:21 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 47

As our RSVP's roll in, let me just share with you the little story I woke up to today, and hopefully ya'll can give me some advice on how to handle it. One of the GM's had a girlfriend at the time we were sending invites (literally 3 weeks ago) and so we invited the two of them, by name, on the same...

As our RSVP's roll in, let me just share with you the little story I woke up to today, and hopefully ya'll can give me some advice on how to handle it.

One of the GM's had a girlfriend at the time we were sending invites (literally 3 weeks ago) and so we invited the two of them, by name, on the same invitation (Mr. John smith & Ms. Jane Doe). Today FH gets a text from this GM stating:

"Don't know if you could tell but I'm no longer dating (Jane Doe) and now I'm dating (completely new girl we've never met). (Jane Doe) is still down to come to the wedding as friends, but also doesn't mind giving her invitation to (new girl). Does that work?"

If this were any guest, I would be fine with saying "no" but he is a groomsmen. I'm not sure what will feel more weird- having his ex accompany him to the wedding and rehearsal dinner, or pretty much un-inviting his former gf so his new girl can come... FH has yet to respond to the text, what would you do??

ETA: update in the comments!

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  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
    C.C. ·
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    Nerd Bride- he is not polyamorous. The other women do not know about each other, to my understanding. He said he will bring one or the other, I guess depending on his situation closer to the wedding.

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  • Sarah
    VIP July 2018
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    @NerdBride- that's another post. I know the one you're talking about.

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  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
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    A- I feel like that is almost not fair to other single guests. They may have "hook up" buddies, but they weren't invited to the wedding because they aren't publicly dating, and when we asked if they were in a relationship they said no. I'm sure they would've liked to bring a friend, but we couldn't accommodate plus ones for single guests.

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  • Veep
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    I don't get the issue. He invites his SO, whoever that may be.

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  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
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    Vee- which one though? Apparently he's got two now!

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  • Laura
    Master July 2017
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    Oh boy!!

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  • Katy
    VIP June 2018
    Katy ·
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    It sounded like old gf knows about new gf if she was willing to give up her invite though? Poor new gf.

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  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
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    Katy E- that's true!! I guess old GF must know, but I don't think new GF does.

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  • Jess'sgirl
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    I'm just petty enough to try to invite whichever one he doesn't bring...

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  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
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    OMG. Now he texted FH and said if it doesn't work out with either girl he'll just bring his mom. That's not how wedding invitations work people! Ugh.

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  • Chelsea
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    I would tell him just that. Say this is not how weddings work. If you don't have a serious date, don't bring one. I can't believe this. I'm sorry you have to put up with this!

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  • augustlawbride
    Expert August 2017
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    At this point I'd be more concerned about potential drama erupting than a head count

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  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
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    Thanks Chelsea! It keeps getting worse hahah. FH just texted him something along those lines, I'm hoping it gets settled.

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
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    Oh jeeze!!!! I would stay out of it! Just tell him he needs to decide by the time you do the seating chart. HaHa! Drama!

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  • C.C.
    Super August 2017
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    Thanks Mrs. Fall bride, I will definitely keep ya'll updated! He hasn't responded to FH's text yet. The jist of our very polite message was: "hey, we love you. We want you to have fun. If you have a significant other, she is invited and we'd love to have her no matter who it is, but we aren't doing plus ones for single guests, so if you aren't dating anyone come single and have lots of fun with your friends, as many people are."

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  • Anna
    Super November 2017
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    One of my friends isn't sure if she should bring her "special buddy" or the guy she is wanting to date from work. My bottom line was if I'm not friends with either, you have two seats. The rest is up to her. We are having place cards..her place cards are "Miss Indecisive" and "Miss Indecisive's Guest".

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  • Natalie
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    Ugh. I mean neither of these two count as a singinificant other. One he is 'sort of still with' while cheating on while the other is a hookup. If he wasn't your GM, I wouldn't be putting up with this nonsense.

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  • karen
    Master October 2017
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    Did he tell you he was seeing GF#1 when you sent out invites? He gets one girl, and you sent out invites. This is the problem with sending casual GF/BFs their own invites.

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  • Tell as all as time
    Dedicated November 2017
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    Nice to know I won't specifics the name of the girlfriend in the invitation don't want drama

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  • love8432
    Super May 2018
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    I don't see a problem with this!

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