Groomsmen RSVP Drama **UPDATE IN COMMENTS YOU WONT BELIEVE THIS*

I'm not sure what the problem is. He should come with his new girlfriend.

It's his guest. He can bring who he wants. I invited my Uncle and his boyfriend, but the BF couldn't come so he's bringing his friend Abigail ( who I don't know)

I would invite new girlfriend. Why are you stressing? If he's in a relationship he should be able to bring his girlfriend. If you want his ex to come, send her a seperate invite.

"I'm sorry, we weren't aware you are dating (new girl) . She is welcome to join you as your guest. We are excited to meet her!"

I would not want to go to a wedding with my ex. That's so odd. If I was the ex, being "uninvited" wouldn't bother me one bit and is completely understandable.

The reason I was stressing about it is that we invited her by name, not "and guest" and I didn't think wedding invitations were transferable haha. I'm glad to see the advice seems unanimous though, that makes the decision easy haha!

Personally I'd laugh about this a little bit and tell your groomsmen that even though his ex was invited by name, that doesn't mean he HAS to bring his ex to the wedding! That would definitely be weird Since you already budgeted space for him to bring a guest (and especially since he's a groomsmen), I'd let him know that he can bring his new girlfriend!

Are you friends with the ex girlfriend? If you are, she should obviously still come. I believe your groomsman was just pointing out that it won't be award and his ex would still like to come to celebrate you two.

If you only speak to the ex because of the groomsman and you are not friends with her and will not stay friends with her in the future, then your FH should say, "I'm sorry but we don't really know [ex] and as we have reserved two spots for you, we are delighted to meet the new woman in your life."

I would just be absolute certain that you are never going to speak to the ex again. I have plenty of friends who's significant other I don't know very well and if they broke up, I would not expect the ex to be at the wedding.

Obviously, the new girlfriend is invited under any and all circumstances.

Lol wut?

The GM needs to figure who the hell he wants to bring. Why wouldn't he want to bring his new date to the wedding?

Also, the ex-gf doesn't get to decide if the new girl will get the invite. The ex was invited on the strength of the relationship with the groomsman.

People are weird. Over the weekend I saw a guest that didn't come to our wedding (invited him and his gf). We didn't bring it up, but he told us he didn't come because he didn't know that he could have come alone. He thought since I put him AND his then gf's name on the invite, that meant the both of them had to come. WTF? What a dummy.

Just texted FH and told him it's fine and to let the GM invite the new girl. Thanks for bringing me off my high horse and making me realize it's not a big deal to just bring the new girl. Lots of love for the WW ladies!

Definitely don't have the ex come that would make it weird. He can bring who he is dating now.

Hahahaha @gymrat that's too funny! And I know- it seems strange to me that the ex would want to still go to our wedding if they're not dating, we've only met her twice. Hopefully his date doesn't change again in the month and a half before the wedding.

I'd say ask FH but let him bring the new gf and if you or FH are still friends with his ex ask if he'd be okay with y'all inviting her as well (which it sounds like he would)

If you're friends enough with her that she'd merit her own invitation even if she hadn't been dating him, invite her separately and allow him to bring his new GF. But if you're not separately close to her, forget it and let him bring the new GF.

We have plenty of friends in relationships where we're only close to one half of the couple. Of course we invited both by name because that's what you do if you know a partner's name. But if they break up before the wedding, neither we nor they would expect us to still invite the half we're not close to just because their name was on the original invite. And why would they want to come anyway??

If FH and I broke up, I wouldn't want to or expect to go to FH's friend's/cousin's/whoever's wedding just because my name had been written on a piece of paper months beforehand.

Definitely the new girlfriend should come. I would feel weird being the new girlfriend if my bf took his ex to a wedding......

No drama here. Old girlfriend is out, new one is in.

I would let him bring the new girlfriend

Well, I thought this was resolved. We let the GM know that he could bring new girlfriend. Then he texts back FH, saying "don't make any changes yet, I'm not sure which one I'm bringing" and proceeds to explain to FH that he is actually still "sort of" together with the original girlfriend we invited, while also hooking up with this new girl, and he isn't sure who he will decide to bring, but he'll select the entree for her and send in the RSVP card, and decide who he wants to bring in a few weeks. WHAT?!

*facepalm*

@Sarah M right?!? Now I'm not sure what to do. We aren't giving plus ones to single people, and this guy is part of FH's whole friend group of single guys, non of whom have dates. He's clearly not serious with either of them considering there's TWO WOMEN.

Haaaahaha. He sounds like a peach but you know what - id just wait and if he doesn't give you a deciding name just put "and guest."