Grooms Who Plan Weddings--hints/advice

To add onto the other posters' suggestions, I would also schedule meeting times of 1- 1.5 hours, with your future spouse and prepare for them as any client. This would be your designated wedding planning time. Then when you're done, you put all talk away, and resume other activities. Perhaps set up a visible calendar with decision deadline dates and payment dates so she (and you) can see the endpoints.

Strangely, weddings are unique in event planning. I'm not sure if it's the emotions or the co-planning involved. But, decision fatigue is a real experience even with the most organized, happy planner. Btw, many posters here have grooms who are very specific in their wedding visions, while brides prefer a smaller elopement prob due to the daunting planning. Best wishes on your engagement.

My FH has only a few things he really cares about. We've discussed those things and continue to discuss them during our wedding planning chats. I send him an email update once a week that he can choose to ignore if he's feeling stressed. He gets included on all vendor emails so he knows what's going on if he wants, then we recap once a week in a discussion. The planning is fun for me but stressful for him, so this is a way to include him in everything without overwhelming him.

Thank you!!

Thanks! I've started to do what I call a short list of things for my fiancée and that has helped. She's way more focused on the crafty aspects of our barn wedding, so maybe that is the area of being fully in charge of. I too have been roping her into vendor calls, but that is a lot for her, and she doesn't always want to be on them. I like the idea of veto power, like you did, so she can totally axe an idea. Ty!

Thanks for that! I have done that with venue/photography, but not catering and what not--meaning narrowing down and doing a pro/con write up and those things. I will definitely try doing this with everything. I was not expecting to do the bulk of the planning, but I do enjoy it, I also just want her to want to take more of an interest in it, so I don't feel like it's all my choices. She is going to be fully in charge of the floral, decor, her dress, ect. So as we get closer, maybe it will feel more like her fingerprints are on our special day, because it is our day.