I think groom's cakes are more common in various regions as most weddings I've been to in the South have them, though some people use them at the rehearsal dinner. We didn't do one, though we did have more than one "cake". Personally, I've found that too many groom's cakes look like kid's party cakes (sorry, not sorry), not a fan of that, but two tasty desserts is better than one!
I’ve lived in the south my whole life, and i feel like it’s definitely a southern thing! most of my northern friends have never heard of them. we are doing grooms cookies! they’ll be decorated with his favorites; harry potter and star wars!
We didn’t do a grooms cake per day, but the flavor he wanted couldn’t be put in the big cake, so we got a tiny cake in the flavor he wanted, and he didn’t even wind up getting a piece! It was just decorated plain, no fancy/theme design. I would ask your FH what he wants.
I’m doing a stacked hunting theme cake. It will be much smaller than the wedding cake. We’re doing a “naked” cake but my FH loves frosting so I wanted to do something for him. It will be chocolate mud cake with salted caramel filling and white sprinkle cake with white chocolate ganache filling. He is a big kid at heart and I thought the flavors would be great for the kids at the wedding as our cake has non traditional flavors
I’m from Texas and they’re definitely a thing here. The more cake the better I say. I’m with the PP who said a lot of them end up looking like kids birthday cakes which I’m not a fan of. We did pumpkin spice w cream cheese buttercream and a dog cake topper I had made by a woman on Etsy that looks like our pup. It was perfect!
We personally didn't have one at our wedding. It felt like something additional we didn't need and my husband didn't really care. We had a 4 tier wedding cake too, and that was more than we were going to need in terms of cake anyway. But, they are definitely still a thing and many people have them! I've seen groom's cakes relating to a favorite sports team, hobbies, or profession (ex. golf cake, or police officer badge, or football team etc.). Here are a few photos I found for inspiration of things to do. I will say, my sister-in-law had one at her wedding and they never even ended up cutting the cake, the whole thing went home with them! Another option is to serve it at the rehearsal dinner.
My husband is from Texas and I had heard about it a lot in the South (and from steel magnolias haha) so it was really important for me to do one for him. Surprised him with it and loved seeing his reaction Everyone loved it.