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Mia and Brandon
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Groom wearing wedding dress

Mia and Brandon, on July 26, 2021 at 3:31 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 27
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Im a gay man and have decided to wear a dress for the ceremony im extremely feminine and grew up in a household of only females so it kind of feels right for our wedding and its now starting to hit me that it may cause alittle friction during the wedding because not only does my fiancés mother not like men doing or using anything feminine a couple in my family aren't the most supportive especially of breaking gender norms im not going to change my mind of wearing a dress but i may have a talk with the people before hand as for the dress itself im going to be making it myself for a few reasons reasons being 1 im only 5 foot 2 inches so dresses in the style I like would be too long for what I want sense I want it right Below the knee 2 being even tho I'm a guy I have a more curvy body which runs in my family for both the men and women to have a more curvy body mine being wide hips large thighs and large bum with a smaller waist so if I were to buy a pre-made dress I would haft to get it larger and loose a large amount of detailing 3 being im extremely picky with my clothes and I want the dress to have aaaaaaloooooot of pearl detailing and a tooooooon of lace and for it to be pink and white and a lolita style how should I go about talking to these people about me going to wear a dress

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Latest activity by Mia and Brandon, on August 12, 2021 at 11:06 AM
  • Griswold
    May 2019
    Griswold ·
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    Shame on folks who don't support you. Obviously you should do what you're comfortable with but I hope they don't stop you from rocking a kickass dress.

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    You really don't have to say anything to them, but if you choose to just let them know your decision and that you aren't changing it. Anyone who is invited to your wedding should be there to support you, not judge or have negative things to say. I say do what makes you & your partner happy!

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  • A
    Expert September 2022
    Allie ·
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    I agree with the PPs...you could casually bring it up like "I am so excited to see everyone at the wedding in their beautiful outfits, and I can't wait to show you my custom-made gown! I've been putting a lot of work into it, and I can't wait to wear it when I marry the man of my dreams!" One other idea, if y'all are taking engagement photos, would be to have one of the outfits be a dress or skirt, so that if anyone's gonna have a negative reaction, they can have it *before* the wedding...and then they can stay home if they can't get over it in time for the wedding...that way, you don't have any negative gasps when you walk down the aisle....only positive gasps at how gorgeous you're gonna look!

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  • C
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Most brides don’t want to share photos of their dress to their family before the big day, this is no different. You’re choosing what you love and feel beautiful in. If they have a problem with it that’s their problem!
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  • Amanda
    Devoted May 2022
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    If you mention it beforehand you’re opening the door for a lot of comments and discussion. Just wear your beautiful dress and steer clear of anyone you think might say something negative on the day.
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Thank you so much
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Thank you so much and me and my boyfriend have talked about would i wear a dress sense we got engaged sense iv always loves feminine things and have worn dresses before I recently went for what would make me happy with a dress for ceremony and "suit" for reception which is more so the top of the dress and either puffy or fitted shorts
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Thank you!
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Thank you so much!
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Mia and Brandon ·
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    Thank you I love that idea
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  • I
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    Ingrid ·
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    Wear what you want and don't justify your decisions to anyone. If people are not supportive of you they can choose not to come (even though you want them there to celebrate with you).

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  • Miya
    Dedicated August 2021
    Miya ·
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    If you “must” involve them, I’d just say I’m wearing a dress and walk away lol. They will be just fine. I didn’t involve anyone with my dress decision because it was my decision. I had my dress made and did exactly what I wanted.
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Don’t invite anyone who doesn’t support your relationship and don’t include them in your lives either. Bullies and haters will not change.


    Billy Porter rocks dresses at awards shows so go for it if that is what you feel most comfortable in.
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Thank you ❤
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    Thank you I bet your dress
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Dress is fabulous * i sent it too early
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    They all support our relationship besides my fiancés father whos main problem is his own perversions
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  • Miya
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    Miya ·
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    It came out just like I wanted 💞 I know yours is going to be fabulous too and you’re going to look gorgeous! Congrats!
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  • Mia and Brandon
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    Thank you 💗
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  • Steph
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    Wear the dress and live your best life! I just hope you do full on Queen- I mean hair, shoes, makeup, all of it! XO
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