groom showing up at shower?

My mom asked my FH to show up at the end so he could help with gifts and things like that. Could your mom, FMIL, or one of you BMs ask him?

My FH's bachelor party is the same day as my shower so I don't think I want him to show up!

I don't necessarily think it is a tradition that the guy has the show up. Tradition is actually that it is for the bride only.... However, I am all about communication. Therefore, if it were me I would tell FH "hey, what do you think about showing up at the end of the bridal shower? it would mean a lot to me." Seems a lot easier than anything else.

I would just ask him. I wouldn't want my FH to not be there with me. Its not just my day but his as well! So i would just ask him to come

That's a tradition? I've only been to one shower and it was all women, all the time. The groom didn't make an appearance.

Honestly, jack and jill parties make way more sense to me. it's about the coming together of two people in marriage - why have only the bride? it just goes into that mentality that it's the bride's day .... So anyway, definitely try to include your groom, I just don't think it's a tradition.

My mom actually told my fh that she wants him there the whole time. as well as my father and she told my fh's father if he wants to come he can. she doesnt wanna "make" him come. but for all showers in my fam we always have the father and the future fh there the whole time.

*she doesnt want to make FH's father come- just to be more clear haha

For my sister-in-law's shower, my brother came at the very end to help with clean-up and greet people. But that way he didn't have to be there for party games and gift opening. It worked really well, and I hope my fiance does the same for me.

FH and my dad dropped off my mother and I. He also came in at the very end to meet a couple of my aunts and to get the gifts.

As much as I'd like him to show up, I know my FH won't. He's hosting a small get together at our house for the men that will be driving their ladies to my shower.

Usually the groom comes towards the end - at least the ones I been to. No solid rule but seems like it is half way through the gift unwrapping.

Most of the time the guests want to see the groom and the few times he never showed people were sort of like where was he, that's odd.

For practical purposes, he is there to help with the gifts. Usually your dad also arrives towards end to for gift carrying.

Talk to the grooms mother and tell her you would like him there at end (if that's what you want). Don't assume the groom will know what to do without a push from his mother and def don't assume his friends will tell him anything. I wouldn't bother telling him to bring flowers. If he doesn't think of that on his own... Oh well.

My FH was at the wedding shower. Our thought was that it was for both of us, not just me. It was nice having him there...especially to help take all the gifts home at the end! lol I look at it like a baby shower, the future dad is usually there because it's his baby too. Well, the wedding is his "baby" as well!

My FH will probably be there the whole time. Since he's from KS and the shower/wedding will be in NY (where I'm from) he doesn't know anyone and wouldn't know what else to do. I don't see why it has to be exclusively women. Plus, he can help open gifts and it'll be done 2x as fast!

I do not think my FH would show up even if I asked/told him to. He is awkward around people anyways. So if he did show up, he would just stand there and not say anything lol.

Hmmm I've honestly never heard of this. I had to travel back to my hometown for both of my showers, and my FH stayed at home, so he wasn't even in the area. I've never been to a shower where the groom showed up. My second shower was at a baseball stadium so my dad and uncle were there but in a different suite. They stopped by and got some food and at the end helped us carry stuff out to the car, but that was it.

FH thought he only showed up at the very end to help load the gifts up, he was a little mad when I told him in my family the guy comes to help open the gifts as well lol. I know for my friends shower the MOH texted the groom to show up with flowers lol. Enlist your mom or MOH if you don't want to discuss it with him

Dan showed up with my Dad and his Dad at the very end (like after most of the guests had left) to carry presents to the car. It wasn't a surprise, we just needed the muscle to help load the gifts.

Most grooms show up here too - afterall the gifts are for both.

My ex refused to show up, let alone bring flowers, and I was so hurt. I had requested that of him, and he just flat out refused. It was a sign of things to come and something I look back on as a red flag. DH would have done it in a heartbeat. No doubt about it.

There's no shame in asking him yourself. You can act all surprised if you want :-)

For my first shower my FH Showed up about half way through gift opening and then helped me open the rest. For my second one - he came right before gift opening. It was such a relief to have him sitting next to me opening gifts, and much less awkward in my opinion too.

My FH showed up at my local shower that his family and parents' friends attended. A lot of them wanted to see him, so I just asked him in advance if he would come and texted him what time. His mom's friends that he grew up with were really excited to see him. He did bring flowers, but that was of his own choosing. He didn't come to my second shower as it was out of state.

To answer your question, I think you should just ask him to come.