Groom can't see me AT ALL day of wedding??

Mine saw me when we were setting up. I didn't want him to, I told him not to show up until a certain time, but he got there early. Oh, well. We hugged and kissed and then I left. Lol.

Geez, it's the 21st century kids.......

If you're okay with it then who cares.

We woke up together in our bed on our wedding day. LOL. Then I left for an 8am hair appointment. He had errands too. We regrouped at the house later, packed up our cars, and headed to the venue. We saw each other for a while setting up then not again until we were all dressed and ready for "first look". Not at all a big deal for you to work together that day to make sure your venue is just how you want it!

Yeah who cares what other people think? lol you gotta do what you gotta do to get things done.

Are you worried about a superstition?

If neither of you care, then I wouldn't worry about it. I know some people still sleep the night before with their fiance so it's definitely not unheard of. And my DH actually went dress shopping with me, so you can follow tradition however you want!

My FMIL is having a cow over this one. It seems easier for me if I stay at home and drive in with stuff in the back of my car. She's insisting I stay at a hotel.

The *tradition* of the bride and groom not seeing each other before the day of does mean *at all*-- so, the couple would say farewell the night before and not see each other again until the bride was walking down the aisle.

But, it doesn't really mean anything and you can actually decide to do whatever you want at your wedding. My husband and I shared a hotel room and spent basically the whole wedding day together.

I plan on waking up next to my groom on our wedding day. If you're doing a first look, that kind takes the whole wind out of the sails for the "he can't see you".

You can do it however you want. FH and I will be spending the night together before our wedding, so he will see me when I wake up to head over to the hotel and do hair/make up around 8AM. Then we will see each other for our first look around 5:30PM. In between that, I'll be busy with my mom, grandma, and BMs doing hair and make up.

It's kind of an old tradition and it totally depends on what you want. H and I spent the night before together and spent the morning setting up and everything together. Then finally about 3 hours before the wedding I went off to get hair and make-up done and I saw him again as I walked down the aisle.

I think this is something completely personal to the couple and so entirely up to you.

We both slept in our house, in our room together, the night before the wedding and kissed goodbye the morning of our wedding. We talked on the phone at one point, and then had a first look. We are happily married and there are no curses or bad luck on our marriage lol.

I'm planning to do exactly what @annakay did. We're going to sleep together the night before, go the the hotel together, and do a first look. I really do not care about most of these weird traditions.

We set up together, and split apart at noon when it was time for me to get ready. We are still married even though we saw each other. :-)

We are probably getting different hotel rooms for the night before, but are doing a first look. So we will see each other before the ceremony. You can do whatever you and your FH are comfortable with.

All of that comes from a time when people didn't meet until the wedding day and girls were hard to marry off. Dads didn't want the groom to see how ugly they might be and run away. Don't worry about silly old traditions. You gotta get stuff done!

I like the idea of my FH not seeing me on our wedding day until I'm walking down the isle. It's romantic and going to be a wonderful surprise! =)

But do what you gotta do!

If it doesn't bother the two of you then don't worry about it. Do what works best for you You will still have that special moment of seeing each other for the first time in your wedding attire ♡

We got ready together, so of course he saw me. we also set up the chapel together ( very quickly together ). We also did pictures before hand.

This is a ridiculous old school superstition based on what pp said - you didn't see each other prior to the wedding so that the groom couldn't back out. Like Celia said, this is the 21st century and that stuff is just ridiculous. Do what works for you.