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Going broke for someone else's wedding

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sarah, on January 25, 2018 at 9:57 AM

So I am the maid of honor and I'm in a destination wedding in a resort in Jamaica. The hotel is a 3 night min which is $1,000 and the flight there for my date and I is $1,000. So that right there is $2,000 I haven't even factored food but she also wants me to pay to get a French manicure and pedicure, hair and make up done as well. She also wants a destination bachelorette party in NYC for the weekend her parents are paying for the hotel but she is asking me to save $550 for that weekend. Like I'm a college student I'm not working while in school, but I worked my entire winter break to save for her wedding. Like is she asking for too much Iike what should I do? When I told her I can't afford that much for the bachelorette party she told me to just put aside money every month to save for it. So I'm looking at around spending $3,000 for someone else's wedding is that a normal price? This is my first wedding I'm in so I'm not sure.

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LeeAnne · on January 26, 2018 at 6:33 PM
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I would tell her no to everything if you arent even going to be the one standing by her being the moh! Thats bs! I am mad for you!
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Just Said Yes June 2018
Katrina · on January 26, 2018 at 7:59 PM
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TBH, you need to be frank with her. Weddings are an event to celebrate and enjoy the company of one another. I personally have 7 girl bridal party with 1 MOH and a junior BM. I sent links to each girl for dresses ON SALE that i like. I am giving them the option to buy whatever style they like, at their own expense.
Her wedding shouldn't make you stress about your own funds. That takes the fun out of being in a bridal party.
If the bride has requirements for her wedding, she should be paying for the requirements.
You need to tell her your true thoughts, and also the height thing sounds completely ridiculous. It sounds like she is getting completely wrapped up in the dine details ---which takes half the fun out of the day. Im sorry you have to go through this!
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Alforev · on January 26, 2018 at 8:09 PM
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That’s a lot of money to spend, especially as a college student. I would explain your situation and honestly, if it were me, I’d back out of the wedding. If she’s a good friend she will understand.
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Kimberly · on March 28, 2018 at 8:08 PM
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That is a bit much to ask of you. Be firm with her and let her know, and if she doesn't get it that's on her. You're her maid of honor and she should understand if you break it down more for her. See if you can find other cheaper options for the whole crowd, less is more! And is there any way you can see if the other bridesmaids would split the cost of the hotel room? I would never ask my maid of honor to do something like that, it does help that I am a college student. I hope it works out for everyone!
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