Gift registry even if your just renewing your vows

I think it's rude to register for gifts if it's a vow renewal. You aren't getting married.

What you have been told is correct.

No you can't. that seems selfish and gift grabby. you've been married and had your chance to get gifts. and your not a bachelorette. your married and have been.

I also think it's rude to register for a vow renewal. I didn't even register for my marriage celebration...it didn't feel right registering when our guests didn't get to witness our ceremony.

It seems odd to register. Gifts at a wedding are usually to help the couple starting their life together.

I'm sure some people will bring you gifts, but don't make a registry. It would come off as rude, and almost as if you're having the vow renewal to get gifts. I'm sorry you didn't get the bridal shower/bachelorette party that you always wanted, but bachelorette parties are just girls night out anyways. You can do that anytime!

As those things are for brides, and you are not a bride, they would be inappropriate for you to do. That ship has sailed.

A registry for a renewal makes it seem as if you are ONLY doing the renewal for gifts. Super attention and gift grabby. All the selfish.

It's odd to have a bachelorette, you're already married. Same with gifts, as you don't need help setting up a home. It sounds like you're trying to re-create a first time wedding which is not the point of a vow renewal.

I agree with the PP. You are already a wife, not a bachelorette, so a bachelorette party would not make sense. Registering for gifts when you've been married for 15 years seems a bit gift grabby.

I agree with what everyone else has said, if you really want a bachelorette party, maybe throw a girls on party before the wedding for a night out on the town, but it is NOT a bachelorette party, call it something else like a girls night, or a pre-renewing sap renewal and go for a day at the spa? Registries are also a no, if someone wants to give you a gift they will.

I wouldn't. People may bring gifts but it is weird to register for a vow renewal. Also a bachelorette party is odd since you're married already.

My husband and I agreed not to register, then I had a few of my family members ask where we were registered at.. I told them that we weren't going to register.. we have discussed going out with our bridal party and having dinner together.. the bridal party our both our children. I think that is something fun to do.. guys do their thing and us female's do our own.. our children are: both boys: 19, oldest daughter is 20 and our youngest will be 18 on the 8th of Dec..

Usually vow renewals don't have bridal parties. You may have some people side-eying that too. It's ok to celebrate with friends and family but Just don't call it bachelorette etc. Definitely no shower either.

But in your original post you said you've been told not to have one?

Just what I was about to say, Kimmy.

DH & I renewed our vows at our home for our 20th anniversary. We had our original MOH & BM stand beside us in front of about 20 guests.

When people asked about gifts, I told them "since the traditional gift for 20th anniversary is china (and we have plenty of that), we'd like marriage advice in the form of a quote from a Chinese fortune cookie." Several guests complied.

Get creative!

People may bring you things if they want but don't register for anything. Also no bachelor/bachelorette parties since you are neither bachelor or bachelorette. If people ask where you are registered just say since it is a vow renewal we are not registered anywhere and just want the people we love to celebrate 15 years of marriage with us.

No it's not. So tired of people posting the same questions over and over

Like PP said, you've already been told the bridal party is inappropriate as well. Bridal party: you're not a bride. Wedding party: it's not a wedding.

A vow renewal is not a redo of your wedding. You're already married.