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Heather
Savvy March 2013

Gift for Ex Wife's wedding???

Heather, on April 16, 2012 at 11:38 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

So FH's ex wife (with whom he has children) is getting married in June. We all have a good relationship and I offered for us to watch the children on their honeymoon; but it appears that they will not be having one. Should we send a gift? I'm not sure what the proper etiquette is as most people hate the ex lol. Thanks!!!

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Latest activity by Blair, on April 16, 2012 at 12:53 PM
  • Pan
    Master March 2012
    Pan ·
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    Yes, I think you should get them a gift in your situation. I would just get them something off their registry. You are still guests like any other for the most part. You could also offer to keep track of the kids during the reception if they are going to be there?

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  • S3
    VIP May 2012
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    If giving them a gift wouldn't be awkward, why not? I don't think it's necessary but I don't think it would be a bad thing either.

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  • WasSoon2BMrsSmith
    Master September 2010
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    I I think that you should buy a gift from the children to them (obviously they will know it is really from you guys but that would be a nice gesture)

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  • MekMek
    Master June 2012
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    I wouldn't look at keeping FH's children during the time they're away on honeymoon as a gift (maybe I'm reading that wrong)

    I'd select something off their registry and call it a day.

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  • Heather
    Savvy March 2013
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    That's what I thought....We get the kids a week before their wedding and I was thinking of having the kids make something for them that's wedding related and then we would get something off the wedding registry. We will not be able to make the wedding itself as Brian is in the Navy and will more than likely be out to sea.

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  • Future Mrs. M
    Expert June 2012
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    We are getting married in June and FH's ex wife is most definitely not getting us a gift...lol! His kids live with us and I'm pretty sure she hates us.

    I think it would be a nice gesture as others have said to get something from the kids and just have it sent to their house.

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  • Heather
    Savvy March 2013
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    Well I should say I offered to watch the kids (which means taking time off work because they are 4+ hours away and its summer) since Brian is out to sea....I personally would consider that a gift as I have no children and the three will drive me nuts by myself lol.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    My ex attended my wedding, and even gave one of the blessings. And yes, he gave a gift from our registry.

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  • HRH Mags
    Master March 2014
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    If you don't want to give a gift off the registry you could always send a bottle of wine to them to enjoy. Maybe that will make it more honeymoon-ish? lol

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  • Linda E: Fairy Godmother
    Master September 2012
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    Since you have a good relationship then by all means send a gift. It will be greatly appreciated and further proof that you wish that person love and success. I know if my ex was still alive, he would def send a gift.

    FH's ex was at a small family gathering while we were vacationing in Florida and she has always been very cordial to me. I know the history between her and FH and she is in a better place in her life right now so there is no reason for me not to be welcoming to her.

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  • Blair
    VIP September 2012
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    I really like the idea of you guys sending a gift "from the kids" its a nice guesture.

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