Mejo
Savvy November 2019

Getting married in 24 days..rsvp hell...vent

Mejo, on October 22, 2019 at 7:30 PM Posted in Planning 1 30
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So I never post on here and always read everybody's post BUT today I need to vent. Why is it so hard for people to RSVP! This is sooo simple. The deadline on the invites was the 5th. It's past the date. The venue final count is this Saturday. I sent a text out to people and still no response. Like seriously! People don't care about it or they didn't pay attention?? Idk.

Previously, someone says they are RSVP for 5 people? Excuse me - ummm no. Only you and your guest are invited! Not people who I don't even know. They should be happy that I'm letting you bring a guest!

Anyway, I'm super excited to marry my love!

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  • Katie
    VIP November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I feel you! We get married in 23 days and I’m panicked about people who haven’t rsvped yet
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  • mary
    Savvy December 2020
    mary ·
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    I felt the same way! Our deadline came and passed. We did the rsvp super easy, either online or send a prepaid rsvp. Not hard to just say you can't come. We called each and every person on the rsvp list.

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  • Nichole
    Savvy November 2019
    Nichole ·
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    I'm getting married in 18 days and many people have not sent back RSVP's but said they are coming. They just wont do right
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    Some people are just rude. I would send everyone who didn’t respond and tell them if you do not hear from them by tmw you are marking them as not attending. That will get them to respond.
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  • Danielle
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Hi Mejo,
    Congratulations!! I am now 34 days married. Yay!!
    I went through the same, Attendees lack of etiquette to RSVP, “ why do I have to call to see if your coming or not.. some RSVP 6 people etc.. Adult wedding no children.”
    It is rude, a joyous event and you need this hassle.
    Some people still did not send it back.
    Nonetheless, the journey has began.. smiles..
    Just breathe..
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  • D
    Dedicated December 2019
    DIY Bride ·
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    We sent our invitations out October 13th for our December 21st wedding. We requested to have RSVPs back by November 11th. We have had them slowly coming back since Friday. Our venue doesn't need a number until December 7th, but because of the Thanksgiving holiday and our guess that we wouldn't get some responses, we made it early. At this point I'm glad I made it early. My FH has about 110 guests and I have about 50. The majority that have been returned are from my guests.

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  • Mejo
    Savvy November 2019
    Mejo ·
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    That is a great idea! Sending them out this morning. Keeping my finger crossed!
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2019
    Katie ·
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    Yeah, I got married a couple weeks ago and people were still changing their minds the week before and wanted to come/ were not able to come. It was a hassle and it felt stressful (especially if you're paying for their meal), but once you're at your wedding day itll be the last thing on your mind!
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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kaitlyn ·
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    I was shocked how stressful the RSVP process was. By our deadline barely a third of my guests had responded (friends were on top of it, family not so much....)

    17 dats out and 20 people are still not sure. 😑
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  • Blair
    Devoted October 2020
    Blair ·
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    I haven't sent out invites yet but I'm nervous about people wanting to invite people to come with them. I don't want over 100 guest and I'm at like 91 now and that doesn't include any plus ones. My limit is 150! I never wanted a big wedding just something small and intimate but somehow since the announcement of our engagement my list has grown tremendously.

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Smiley sad people are so bad at rsvp'ing. It's frustrating because... It makes you feel like they don't understand you're planning a party by person ya know?
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  • Mejo
    Savvy November 2019
    Mejo ·
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    It is sooo frustrating! I had no idea the rsvp process was so stressful! Two of my bridesmaids aren’t speaking to each other...too many things going on. I kind of wished we would have eloped.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If you texted & didn't get a response, I'd count as a no! When our RSVP date passed, we were waiting on 61 people so we texted all of them. By the next day, we were waiting on 24. So I texted those 24 again one more time and if they didn't respond we marked them as a no and texted them to inform them. It was a pain but only took around 3 hours total!

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  • E
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Edriana ·
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    Hunny will just eliminate them off your list! PERIOD! Do not reserve seats or food for people that refuse to respect you and your fiancés money!
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  • S
    Savvy September 2020
    Stephane ·
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    Yeah I feel you I'm not getting married until next year but most of the people I RSVP to invite said it is not until next year, there's plenty of time for that, like I was thinking time flies by really fast.
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  • Cynthia
    Devoted November 2019
    Cynthia ·
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    I was thinking I was the only one who was dealing with this I get married in 10 days and I still have 2 unconfirmed guest who have not RSVP’ed October 5th was our deadline on the rsvp and we only got about 20 or so back in the mail many said that they sent them and we never received them(which we have had our mail mixed up with our neighbors in the past) it’s hard to believe that many go lost tho and we invited 200! Like wth is wrong with people we put the time and effort to send the invite with postage and everything all you do is check yes or no and send it back. It’s so rude to not respond we had to call over 100 ppl to verbally confirm and it was a nightmare getting final counts for everything like food, tables, linens, drinks, booze, seating chart ect.. And to still have 2 unconfirmed guest ugh!! 😣
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  • Shaina
    Devoted October 2020
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    How did you handle the people putting more than who was invited on the RSVP?

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  • Mejo
    Savvy November 2019
    Mejo ·
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    I let them know that they could not come & reminded them that the invite is for him & a guest. I addressed the invite to "Person and guest". It amazes me that people would even want to go to a wedding they aren't invited to. LOL

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  • Shaina
    Devoted October 2020
    Shaina ·
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    Ugh thats annoying. I really hope I don't come across those. I would feel uncomfortable assuming that I could go if I was not on the invite. They should have asked you if anything first! lol

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  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·
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    As frustrating as it is, you really should reach out to all non-responders one last time, and say "if we haven't heard from you by tomorrow, we will have to count you as a no, and you will not have a seat or a meal. We are sorry you won't be there with us to celebrate." and leave it at that. People need to understand that weddings are usually priced out on a "per person" basis, so you really do need to know a firm yes or no for every single guest.

    As for those people who want to add guests to their RSVP, just tell them you're sorry, but the invitation was for you and a guest, and we just cannot accommodate any additional guests. That's just about the rudest thing ever, imo.

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