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Savvy November 2019

Getting married in 24 days..rsvp hell...vent

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Mejo, on October 22, 2019 at 7:30 PM

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So I never post on here and always read everybody's post BUT today I need to vent. Why is it so hard for people to RSVP! This is sooo simple. The deadline on the invites was the 5th. It's past the date. The venue final count is this Saturday. I sent a text out to people and still no response. Like...

Previously, someone says they are RSVP for 5 people? Excuse me - ummm no. Only you and your guest are invited! Not people who I don't even know. They should be happy that I'm letting you bring a guest!

Anyway, I'm super excited to marry my love!

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Savvy October 2020
Mary · on October 23, 2019 at 5:07 PM
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Hi, I'm so sorry that's an issue this late in your wedding process. I've decided that when ever I do RSVP. I will have a date that they need to respond by and they can use any means to communicate back, which I'm not telling them this part bc I dont want a bunch of texts, calls, emails. If not they will be unable to attend the festivities. We have started at the minimal of 100 guests and I'm doing my best to keep it at that. If we have 25 guests I'm confortable with that. Point is dont low others to ruin your day. Be as firm and consistent as you can be. The show must go on. The unneccessary stress is so unneeded. I hope I dont sound harsh and it helps. Congratulations to you and your husband and your life that awaits you both...
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Stephanie · on October 24, 2019 at 10:26 AM
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OMG I am not looking forward to this part. I hate when people can't just follow damn directions and just communicate. I pray this is all working out for you. Congrats
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LOVETTE · on October 24, 2019 at 10:49 AM
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Because ppl are so inconsiderate. They dont understand the importance of RSVPing, especially for a wedding. Sooooooo whoever doesnt RSVP will not be invited. You sent out a txt. You shouldnt be stressing...
Any who. Congratulations, and I hope your wedding turns out just like you vision it!!!!!
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Tara · on October 24, 2019 at 11:00 AM
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Girl, you are not alone in this!!!! I feel like almost everyone experiences this to some extent. It's so crazy to me and so so annoying! Like for real how hard is it to send back your RSVP card... that has already been stamped!!! Uggghhh! It's crazy to me that people don't think about the fact that you need to give caterers a heads up as to how many people will be there. So annoying! Maybe post something on social media reminding people. Or send messages and be like we just need to know if you're coming or not, if I don't hear from you I'm assuming no.
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Dedicated December 2019
Anita · on October 24, 2019 at 2:15 PM
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You are truly reading my mind. The invites went out a couple of weeks ago and I have 5 count them five RSVP's. They will sit on someone's table until they forget it's there and then it will become my problem., because I then have to change seating and plate counts. I understand your anguish.
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Dedicated November 2019
DRE_W · on October 24, 2019 at 4:09 PM
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RSVPs were when my headache started! And it hasn't let up since...ugh! I have 8 days left, and counting. Good luck with your RSVPs! It'll work out one way or the other.
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Master May 2020
Kari · on October 25, 2019 at 10:27 AM
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I literally don't know how people can be so rude. I'm hoping we don't run into this issue because we are keeping our wedding pretty small (60-80 people) and most of the people invited are those we communicate with fairly regularly. RSVPing is not hard.

I'm planning to make our RSVP deadline at least a full week before the venue/caterer needs our count (21 days out) and then will follow up with anyone who hasn't RSVP'd immediately following the deadline. If I don't have a firm answer by the venue deadline I'm just counting those people as not coming and letting them know we don't have a space for them because we had to give in our numbers already.
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Just Said Yes September 2020
B · on October 25, 2019 at 10:33 AM
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I feel ur pain!! Today is our deadline for RSVPs and we’ve only have 1/3 of the people respond.... it’s really not that hard people just don’t pay attention or think it’s ok to just show up unannounced 🙃
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Jade · on October 25, 2019 at 10:37 AM
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You vent girl!! But honestly I totally agree with what some said above. You can reach out one last time, but if they’re not responsive just take those people off the guest list. I’ve already decided when I get to this point, if someone doesn’t RSVP, I will assume they’re not coming! I may or may not even follow up lol. Cause I’ve been to multiple weddings, and never have I ever not RSVP’ed, because it’s just not that complicated. Anyways, congrats to you! Have the best wedding day✨ Wishing you & your hubby nothing but peace & love on your special day ❤️
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Dedicated May 2019
Clara · on October 25, 2019 at 3:04 PM
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I had my fair share of the RSVP nightmare lol. I had a family of 5 not respond so I sent a text. They replied saying they were all coming. Then a week later I heard through my mother that they weren't coming (after I gave my caterer the final count). I was so upset. I also had guests adding plus ones to the RSVP cards or calling me asking if they can bring a guest. I ended up giving in for some of my guest just because I was so over being stressed out.
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