Getting gifts that aren't on your registry

I have seen that some times with the registries people will get things for themselves while shopping for the bride and tell the registry name, the cashier will then just go and ring everything up and it will show on your registry so unless they already gave it to you i wouldn't assume that they are giving it to you.

As for getting gifts that aren't on the registry i am guilty of that, i just put a basket together of things from home goods that had the same type of things the bride wanted but they weren't exactly the ones on the registry ( she had a $52 set of measuring cups and spoons from William Sonoma- really??) - i do have one thing in there that was on her registry though.

I know people are going to say 'be thankful/the thought that counts' yatayatayata, but I'm with you. We only have 60 some items on our registry. Mostly because the info was sent out with the shower invites and we only had 30 people invited. Most people are traveling for our actual wedding and we didn't include registry info with the invites (if they do go on the website they can see it though). Anyways. We don't need a ton of stuff, so we really thought about what we could use and register for it. One of FH aunts sent us this cute sign with FH last name. It's made out of wine items (which is cute we both like wine), but it's just another thing to hang on the wall. AND I don't really even like FH last name. I'm going to add it as another last name, but I'm not in love with it, so when I opened it, I know some people would be all 'ekkk it's getting official', I was more like, ummm oh okay.

I get some people just don't like buying off the registry and do their own thing and that's perfectly fine if they know the couple well and think of something that would be more special. Whatever I'm sure we will find a place to hang the sign, but just wanted to say I'm with you on this train.

What Surfer said...I've done it buy accident once shopping for our house and a registry gift at the same time...the rug for our kitchen showed up on the registry after I told the cashier the bride's name (I always check registries after I buy something to be sure the purchase was noted)...OOPS!

The only time I went off the registry was for my MOH's wedding...her mom was adamant about throwing a shower so she made a small registry that gave her such a hard time because she couldn't think of very many things to put on it. So instead I bought her a Pandora bracelet with a Bride & Groom charm...and told him it was for both of them, as when he's in the dog house now all he has to do is stop and buy a new charm for her bracelet!

Maybe it's something that they have and love, and thought you would too. It is the thought- anything can be returned.

UGH! I HATE mason jars! I see them ALL the time here in WV! In fact, I joined a recycle wedding facebook group and it's mainly just mason jars & Burlap! You go to walmart here and mason jars in every center aisle. It's a big thing here! I'm so sick of seeing them. Hopefully you can resell them. Maybe on a recycle group or on Ebay. Good luck!

The posters before me are right. My registry said purple towels were added to mine but they weren't given to me. It was just someone buying them at the same time as my other stuff.

My advice is to stop looking at your registry to see what people may (or may not have) purchased for you. As someone else mentioned, sometimes when people buy things for themselves while they are shopping off of a registry it shows up as a gift on the registry. If you do get a gift that isn't on your registry or that you don't care for, just be gracious and thankful that someone took the time and money to purchase a gift for you. Maybe it's just me, but I do not understand fretting over what someone may have bought for you. It's a gift, and some people are better at selecting gifts for people than others, but it's still a gift.

I've bought things outside of a registry. It's nice to be surprised! The thing that sucks about shower gifts is people buy what you ASK for, so it's not a huge "OH COOL!" when you open it and it's the set of silverware you asked for. But it's likely they bought it for themselves like others mentioned. If not, you just return it and get what you want.

I got towels with cats on them for every day of the week....and no I did not register for them...just saying

@Meggie Jo, OMG, I am sorry, but I think that is adorable.

Well, my FMIL bought us a chips maker that you put into the microwave! That was not on our registry! And my FH is like we're giving this to goodwill.

Before getting engaged, I got people things not on their registry all the time. Now that I’m engaged and getting things not on my registry - I’m super annoyed. It’s not my style or I don’t have the space for it so what am I supposed to do with it? Also we registered for a pizza stone and we got the one from our registry but then my FMIL bought us one from somewhere else- I goy the one I want, I’m not keeping hers? Do I ask for a receipt? I took the time to pick out the exact one I want so why should I have to compromise and return the one from my registry. People are also purchasing things from the registry that have already been purchased so we have multiple of one thing sooo??? We also put a $200 wok on the registry and someone bought us one saying they couldn’t afford the one on the registry but here’s a $7 wok from Walmart! I understand not everyone can afford things on the registry but we do have a cash fund. It’s a sweet gesture but I’ll likely give it away. I will forever get things from someone’s registry now.