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Gender reveal and our wedding?

Mary, on December 17, 2016 at 10:33 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 79

I'm getting married in February!! Yay! I have this small issue with my hubby's mom and sister. My sister in law is having a lot of remorse because she didn't have an actual wedding. They just got married in their jeans and called it a day! Totally cool! That's what they wanted! So when we got engaged she was really upset that I was the one who told her we were engaged and not my hubby. She made it obvious how much regret.

Well, now she is pregnant!! Yay! I'm going to be an aunt again! So it's their first baby and they want to have a gender reveal party. However, my hubby to be's other sister lives out of town. So my mother in law message me today that they will probably be having the gender reveal party in February when I'm getting married. Probably the weekend on my wedding. I told his mom that we will be booked in February becasue we are getting married. I'm pretty mad. I wish they could wait a month or do it at Christmas. I just feel like we are revolving around her. Am I wrong!?

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Latest activity by Runawaybride, on December 19, 2016 at 2:49 PM
  • Anne
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    Anne ·
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    So wait, they're going to do it instead of coming to your wedding? Or another week in February.

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    I mean, so long as it isn't the day of your wedding, I don't see what the big deal is.

    She gets a day.

    You get a day.

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  • 250Love
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    250Love ·
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    Would it be out of town and they're requesting your presence at the same time as your wedding?

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  • 250Love
    Super September 2017
    250Love ·
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    And trust me...on your wedding day, no one will be thinking about the gender of a baby that isn't here yet...let them have the moment and let it go

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  • Mrs. TacoCat
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    Mrs. TacoCat ·
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    I am so confused....

    also he isn't your "hubby" yet....

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  • M
    Beginner February 2017
    Mary ·
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    No, they are planning on the Sunday after our wedding I believe.

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  • Mrs. TacoCat
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    So you are upset that you FSIL will announce the gender of their baby the day after your wedding? And this will cause a problem how?

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  • Del
    Master November 2017
    Del ·
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    I get why you're annoyed, but I'd honestly just try to shrug this off. If it's a different day then whatever, and no one who decides to only go to one party per weekend is going to choose a gender reveal party over a wedding.

    Also, gender reveal party??? Is this a thing? is there ANYTHING that doesn't merit money and planning now?

    ETA: If it's the day after then seriously. Don't worry about it. Though if you throw a rocking wedding I think she'll be seriously disappointed in the turnout. Most people will be sleeping off the night before!

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  • StephanieSky
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    It's the day after your wedding? Why do you care? Won't you be getting ready to honeymoon?

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  • BeachDreams
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    BeachDreams ·
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    You get one day. Are you worried because you think they are taking attention away from your wedding? Or are worried that you may not be able to attend as you will be away on honeymoon? eta: clarity

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  • Autumn
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    As long as it's not on the day of your wedding, you need to relax. People will be focused on you and your FH on your wedding day, and then they will be focused on the gender reveal on whatever day that party is on. Is it unfortunate that they're so close in time frame? Yeah not particularly ideal but such is life

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  • M
    Beginner February 2017
    Mary ·
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    No, we have a lot of town guests. My parents are hosting a brunch and gift opening. We aren't going on our honeymoon until June!

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  • Ali
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    Personally I think gender reveal parties are stupid BUT as long as it is not on your wedding day I would put it out of your mind and just smile through it.

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  • K.M.
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    I don't see the issue. You get one day.

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  • Eboni
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    Eboni ·
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    Honestly I think it makes sense. It's about convenience for the out of towners. They can experience both without forking out more money to travel

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  • StephanieSky
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    If it's not on your day and you'll be in town then just suck it up and support her. You get one day.

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  • Ali
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    Ali ·
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    Does this interfere with your parent's brunch?

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  • M
    Beginner February 2017
    Mary ·
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    I get that too! The money and traveling. My other sister in law is the only one who we have to worry about.

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  • Jaimee
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    I don't see what the problem is then. Again, you get a day, she gets a day.

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  • Mrs. TacoCat
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    ...and back to confused.

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