So, everyone is deciding not to go to our wedding because we are a gay couple and due to religious beliefs, a lot of our family is uncomfortable with our marriage. We only have about 10-15 people coming, and I don’t want to shell out $5000 on a reception venue with nobody really coming. What are some fun after ceremony ideas that you can do with a small group instead of a reception?
That's the stupidest thing I've heard. It's 2022, almost 2023 and people still care about who marries who. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
But you could see about renting out a small room at a restaurant or just take everyone out to dinner. All depends on what your crowd likes. Drinks, games, dancing. Imagine the party you could throw for 15 people on $5000.
Ugh. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this close-minded silliness. Congratulations on the engagement and on finding the person you want to spend your life with! The silver lining is, less people = less money (or your money goes a lot further at least)! You could take everyone out to a chic restaurant for dinner after your ceremony. Or you could do a non-traditional sort of dinner, like a dinner cruise or a murder mystery dinner, drag dinner, etc. Or you could rent out a cool Airbnb and have a dinner catered there, then host a game night or go barhopping. The possibilities are really endless when you are working with a smaller group like this.
Small group of supportive people who want the best for you? Awesome.
I love private restaurant room gatherings with great food and wine.. but that's me. Can you incorporate any of you and yours' interests? I'm thinking winery or brewery (with tour), boat ride, duck tour?, beach activity, backyard firepit with games, concert, etc...
With an intimate gathering, you have the benefit of doing anything that you want to and can really personalize it. Think about what you love to do and turn it into an experience! Good luck with the planning!
Maybe you can do a group hike and then have your ceremony at the vista/look out point? You can give everyone a baggie of picnic foods to carry up the mountain and after the ceremony you can have a picnic celebration/reception? Photos would be dope!
You could rent out an entire bowling alley and have your ceremony on one of the lanes? Cool back drop? Fun bowling ball props?!
Rifle range? Ceramic class? Museum ceremony and then walk around the museum?
What are some of you and your fiancés interests. I’d love to keep coming up with some ideas!
I’m so sorry that your families are being unsupportive. I learned a while ago that the people that are meant to be on your life will show up, and those are the only ones that matter! For a small group I’d do a nice restaurant or winery. Or if you have a backyard it could be very nice and intimate. Good luck with everything
Only invite the people who love you unconditionally whom you cannot imagine the day without. Ignore everyone else if they choose to not respect you. Serve good food, don’t ask anyone to open their wallets, have a great dj or background music, and let guests socialize naturally as they will. Contrary to what online articles insist, you don’t need games because people will mingle on their own.