Frustrated with planning

He’s just not a planning person and that’s ok but he should’ve been supporting you anyway. My FH hates this wedding planning too, he finds it overwhelming and frustrating, he still helped make phone calls and such.
You don’t even know if his clothes fit him or not??? That crosses a line for me. If he doesn’t want to help with the wedding I get it but his clothes are his responsibility. I hope you guys can get this sorted!

My husband was that way. I asked what he was most excited about in terms of the wedding and so I let him have that as his portion of the planning. Give him small tasks he would do.

My FH is the same way, I try not to talk about weddings all the time but sometimes I can't help it, I'm just excited! I get upset when I can tell he's annoyed with me, but he tells me he's absolutely excited, wedding planning just isn't his thing. He wants me to do whatever I want, and I tell him I just want to know he likes things. So we made a compromise. I only come to him with yes or no "do you like this" questions so he doesn't have to choose things, I try not to talk wedding stuff more than once or twice a week, but he does go and meet with the vendors with me, which I appreciate. I think you guys should try something like that

Your FH sounds like he's just not that into wedding planning, which is okay. What's not okay is if he doesn't help you at all with major things like venue, catering, photography, etc!

Oh my god. I swear I wrote this post. Lol this is exactly what had happened to me - only it was 3 months not 10— once we picked a venue which we did about 3 weeks ago he is now GROOMZILLA !!! Lol bittersweet. He wanted nothing to Dow it’s planning but nOw all of a sudden he needs to do everything and he basically wants to know every little detail. Careful what you wish for lol I love it but he needs a chill button hahah

I had a very similar issue. The only way you will get him involved is to give him small task that you need him to take 100% ownership of. Ask for very specific help and I’m sure he will do it for you. Most men don’t enjoy this part of the wedding.

I never dreamed of a wedding. For me, it was a series of practical chores that needed to be done. And I wouldn't have put up with having them all dumped on me.

On the other hand, if it's true that everything out of your mouth for ten months has been about the wedding, I can understand his frustration. Your relationship is way more important than one day. And if you aren't talking about anything but the wedding (which bores him), then you're letting the relationship slide.