friends of opposite sex!!

I don't see what the problem is? That's his friend, why wouldn't he tell her the wedding details? Sounds like a hint of jealousy lol.

I'm the type of person that would book a room immediately if I knew I was planning on attending.

My question is why are you so suspicious of her and what does "it's not THAT serious" mean?

I will say my friends of the opposite sex have become more like acquaintances as we've gotten older and went our separate ways, and they are not new friends. These are guys I grew up with. As in our mothers were pregnant together and are still friends because they live not only in the same neighborhood, but on the same street LOL There's a ton of platonic history there.

I have never been fond of the friends of the opposite sex thing...Lucky me u r probably right! lol somehow I don't believe he has told any of his male friends about the hotel so .. just wondering y she was the first to know....

I have never met her and they don't have an intimate past or anything I just never knew of anyone with serious female friends that NEVER had sex/dated. I dont have male friends coming to the wedding and she is the only female friend of his coming....Paris are your friends coming to your wedding?

I feel ya twin. My FH has some female friends he invited that I dont too much care for. Lol. One of them even had the nerve to ask if she could bring along more ppl to the wedding -_-

Ha. No.

Their parents are though (or at least they're invited).

One of them told me he doesn't do second weddings (he wasn't even on the guest list though, that's the funny part). Anyway, that stung for about 2 seconds, but then I realized that I'm just glad I'm not so close-minded.

The others live too far away and I didn't even put them on the guest list. They came to one wedding and I feel weird inviting them to another. It's my mom's idea to put their parents on the list (whatever).

If your FH has never given you a reason to not trust him, then you have to believe him. Women are going to be in and out of his life whether you know about it or not.

I could make your head spin with all the (known) affairs going on at work right now. It goes against everything I grew up believing and how I conduct myself, but it happens all.the.time. Disgusts me, really, but as long as I'm not involved, it's not my issue. Whoa, way off topic. Sorry.

SOunds to me like he was excited-ly talking to his good friend about his wedding. That made friend of FH also excited. She's thinking .. "good for my friend (your FH), I wouldn't miss a chance to see good friend marry girl of his dreams. I better reserve my room now!"

Just my 2 cents!

PS .. we are date twins and I sent our invites last week.

What's the problem if she is invited to the wedding? She has to get a room at some point... and your wedding is next month. You should probably get those invites out.

I think this is definitely something that is more common nowadays. My fh has some female friends of his coming to the wedding that he is good friends with. I'm ok with him having these friends because I trust him. I have good male friends but they are not coming to the wedding (with the exception of the best man who is a mutual close friend of both of us).

Yes, it is possible to have male friends that you have not had sex with or dated. Or least I have them.

I have many male friends who I have not slept with. I worked with them or grew up with them.

I talk to them and when we are together we go out and my husband goes with.

I talk to my husbands male friends more than he does.

I also keep no secrets from my husband. When you start keeping secrets of who you were with or who you talked to then that is a problem.

Your FH could have told his male friends and they just not make the arrangements. I know my husband would wait for me to say make them or he would wait until the very last minute.

To me, male guys don't care to ask about wedding plannings and details, so it doesn't seem unusual to me that your FH hasn't yet told them about the room blocks.

I have always had more male friends than female. I can talk to them more about certain things. My FH best friend is girl.

I have stayed friends with all my ex-boyfriends expect the one I was going to marry.

I wouldn't worry about her, because he shoose to spend his life with you and not her. I would think he would tell her the details if he really wanted her there.

My FH best contacts me before most the time.

If she's on the guest list then I don't see a problem. She's probably very excited to see her friend get married.

Thanks ladies I see now that I'm over reacting ! Yes she is invited to the wedding! I just haven't had much experience sharing my man with another female and knowing it lol

Both my DH and I have many friends of the opposite sex. Two of his female friends were invited to our wedding and we very excited to come. I invited about 4-5 of my very good male friends and they also came. Also invited their parents, who came. Two of my best male friends were actually our ushers and one was our MC. I do not see the problem with having friends of the opposite sex and them being excited for their friend's wedding.

Trisha and Desiree I know I need to get those invites out! I have to seal the last few and I'm going to mail them tomorrow!

Trisha and Desiree I know I need to get those invites out! I have to seal the last few and I'm going to mail them tomorrow!

I have a really good friend who is a guy, we've known each other since 8th grade when he came to public school from home-schooling & I was the first person to talk to him. We say I'm his first friend :p I've had many people think it's strange that we can be completely platonic, not everyone believes us.

His wife had trouble understanding our relationship, just like you and this friend of your FH, but she emailed me and once I wrote back she felt better & now she's friendly with me. (I explained that her husband - my friend - was more like a brother than anything else, and that the thought of romance with him was gross).

If you're bothered by it, talk to your FH about their relationship, or try to talk with her. I'm sure she's just excited to see her friend get married though, so take it as a compliment that she's supportive of his relationship with you!

Lol. I'm glad to hear you realize that you were a bit sensitive. :-) We are protective of our men, it's true...my fh has 1 very close female friend and I ADORE her though I don't really know her. I'm in agreement that she is just happy to see her friend be happy and she knows about the hotel because she probably asked. NO worries girlie.

Wait, wait, wait - not to hijack this thread but, I can't get past this: Paris - your guest said 'I don't do second weddings"?! What the f***? Why the hell not?! That is one of the rudest quotes I think I have ever read on the internet. And that's saying A LOT.

**edited to add: OP, I wouldn't worry too much. She may just be a very organized person and wants to make sure she reserves her room early. I'm this way too. Maybe talk to your FH about it if you're getting a weird vibe though.