Friend who always runs late

I wouldn't mention it. She's an adult and you can't control whether she is on time or not.

Does she acknowledge she is late? My sister is always late and I told her doors lock at 12:30 so she best be on time. I was joking but she knows she's late all the damn time so she took it in stride.

She's an adult.

If she's late to your wedding, she misses the ceremony. Unless she's an essential part of the wedding ceremony. I would not worry about it.

I have a friend whose the exact same way. Just let her know that you really need her to be on time to ensure nothing gets delayed. I don't think she'll take it as an attack.

If she's not in the wedding, I wouldn't say anything. Her presence as a guest shouldn't delay anything.

Is she a bridesmaid? If not, it doesn't really matter if she is late. You aren't going to delay the ceremony for her. She can quietly slip in and sit in the back. You won't notice.

That is so RUDE! I do not respect people who run late. In fact, if I have a set time to meet with someone, and they are 10 minutes late, I leave.

If she is in your wedding, I would be tempted to tell her that you need here there at a time ahead of the real time. For instance, if you need her to be there at 2PM, tell her 12:30PM.

If she is not in the wedding party, let her show up when she shows p and act as if you never noticed that she wasn't there on time.

How important is it to you that she is on time? If it is very important, then just tell her that it is very important to you and ask if she can try to arrive early. Otherwise, let it go.

I would expect her to be an adult and be prepared to start on time. I was annoyed and felt awful for my nephew and new niece at their wedding a couple weeks ago when 4 people showed up just as they started their processional. The wedding planner should have stopped them from entering the chapel and made them wait to be seated, but instead they came in during the music with all eyes upon them.

Is she in the wedding?

The only way that she will change is if you stop rewarding bad behavior. If you set a time of 1 pm to meet for lunch and she's not there within 15 minutes, you leave. Right now, she has no motivation to change. She knows that you will sit there and wait for her- however long she takes.

Whether she is in the wedding party or not, start on time. You want to reward the good behavior of your guests who do arrive on time.

Would you like to be treated like a child and reminded of when you need to be an adult? I'd say leave her alone.

Honestly? The fact that she may be late to the wedding if she's a guest and not in it, wouldn't be my problem and I'd not say anything about that.

BUT...I wouldn't tolerate a chronically late friend for social events, like even meeting for lunch. It's about consideration and boundaries. If someone is always late, I would definitely say something....why? Because it's an inconsiderate waste of my time, and I don't have time for it. She'd either accept that criticism gracefully and learn from it or be butt hurt. but by then I'd be done making plans with her if she thinks that's ok.

I wouldn't say anything. She she make sure to be on time for your wedding.

I would wait 30 minutes and be out. No way I'm waiting over an hour without a text "stuck in traffic" or "flat tire" etc... That is incredibly rude. She's an adult, and like PP I wouldn't say anything if she misses the ceremony. Those people will never change.

I have a friend who is always late, so I always tell her we need to be somewhere at least 30 minutes before we actually do. I know she's an adult, but I hate being late, so I lie if we are carpooling somewhere. She has made me late to a few appointments. It's a joke with us now, but important things, I give at least an extra half hour

I have a friend like this and I did not say anything to her about it with respect to my wedding. She and her family were on time for the ceremony. Honestly, this friend knows she runs late for everything and others point it out to her. She still runs late. I think that had I pointed out she couldn't be late to my ceremony, it would have been a point of contention. Like I said, she pulled it together and got herself in a seat on time for my ceremony. It may have been easier because her and her family were staying at the hotel where the wedding took place and they got there two days early, so they really just had to be showered, dressed, and downstairs before 6pm. But, it's not my business how they chose to spend the day and how they got to the ceremony on time.

As a guest, it's up to your friend to decide to be on time. If she isn't, then she has to wait until after the processional to sneak in and grab a seat in the back, or she just doesn't get to witness the ceremony if she's that late and she can join in at the reception. That's on her.

If you have a DOC, the DOC will likely be paying attention to guests that aren't on time and will be sure to make them wait to come in until a time when it won't be disruptive.

Some of you are more patient than me

1.25 hours past an appointment date/time is not 'runs late' that's absurd.

That's missing the date.

And I say that as a chronically late person. How do you run that late all the time and how a job? That's a priority issue, not a late issue.

Unless she's in the wedding, you have no place to say anything. And you don't delay your wedding for her. You get married on time.

Honestly I have no patience for people who don't respect my time. I work really hard to always be on time (which to me is 5 mins early), so I don't think I would keep a friend in my life who consistently disrespected me like that.

But to answer your question, it is totally inappropriate for you to ask or tell her to be on time. And to be frank, it's not like you saying anything would change her behavior in any way.