Friend was gossiping about me at my wedding

A person like that is not a friend and you need to cut them out. People do nonsensical things every day for attention and it only makes them look bad, As for why they would attend your wedding when they don’t really like you, they were after the free food and drinks and have personal insecurities that are your job to fix. So sorry that you had to deal with that.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I totally agree . I said something similar to my husband tonight and he said I was making a big deal out of nothing and I was overreacting when I told him I had found out she was asking personal questions about me at my wedding drinks reception, literally minutes after the ceremony.


She’s always one of those that has a fake smile when you approach her and you just get the feeling she’s just said something negative about you, but then you think “no she wouldn’t do that” 🙄
To make matters worse, myself, my husband and 3 other couples - her included are going for dinner Friday night . I think it will be awkward knowing what I know.

She know she wrong. She jealous too. It's a shame she came to the wedding and got a free meal. Leave her alone. She sounds like she no good.
Congratulations on your wedding💜

Hello Congratulations on your marriage and yes ppl are like this unfortunately. And I'm so sorry that had happened at your wedding and I hope that. That those friends had told them nothing but ppl were probably drinking and spoken about you. But for someone who supposed to be a friend happy for you but instead deceived you. And I think that you need to confront her as ask her why she felt it was her place to be meddling in your past affairs. That had absolutely nothing to do with her unless she had something to do with. Your past marriage it's none of her business but once you find out you live your happy life with your new husband

Is it possible she's just a curious person or even just a little nosey. Those two questions themselves don't seem that intrusive to me, coming from a friend and not a stranger anyway.

Personally, I don’t see why this is so egregious. She wasn’t gossiping behind your back, she was simply asking questions. And there is nothing to indicate she was being malicious about it. Maybe she was just curious. Or maybe she was simply trying to make small talk with people she didn’t know that well, and chose a topic they had in common- you. Unless there is more to the story, I think your husband is right you are making a big deal out of nothing. Also, I think your friend who came running to you telling you to be careful about this person was creating drama where there wasn’t any. Maybe this old friend of yours is feeling threatened by your new friend and is trying to create a wedge between the two of you?

I'm with Michelle on this one - I would distance myself from her. The questions themselves aren't super intrusive - if it was a different event. Asking about your previous marriage at your wedding? Nope. Not cool. I also feel like the kids question was very loaded and was her trying to figure out if you're a "bad mom" and that's why your kids live with their father. Super personal questions might be fine in a different setting, but at your wedding it just looks like she's trying to find dirt on you and make other people look down on you on a day that should be about joy and love.

Context matters. A lot. There's ways to make small talk at weddings about the couple without it being rude (How do you know the bride? Oh you've known her for 30 years?! That's awesome! What's your favorite fun story with them? etc) but this comes off as digging for dirt.

Distance. Be polite at dinner, but I wouldn't give her any more personal information about you and your husband than you are comfortable with.

Is it possible this person just isn't super aware of social norms for one reason or another (mental health issue, outspoken personality, no filter, etc.)? Or was alcohol possibly involved? I know some people who have said things that I couldn't believe they said, but they either just weren't aware it was inappropriate or they tend to just say whatever pops into their head without thinking. That doesn't make it ok that she was asking about such personal things at your wedding, but it might explain it.

I don't think it would be wrong of you to distance yourself from that person. I'd probably also be annoyed if someone brought up a previous marriage or parenting arrangement during my wedding.