Friend getting married two days before.

I don’t think you are wrong for getting upset. I do think that’s rather odd for her to schedule her wedding so close to yours but maybe she doesn’t see it as a big deal. Have you tried talking to her about it?

You get one wedding day. You have every right to not attend if it doesn’t work for your schedule, but she also has every right to get married whenever she pleases.

I agree with Caytlyn. Is there a significant amount of overlap in your guest list? Especially people who would have to travel out of state to come to the weddings? If so, then that might impact you a little bit, particularly out of state folks. Otherwise, it really won't interfere with your wedding much. If you can't go because you feel like you will have too much to do 2 days before your own wedding, then just decline when the invitation comes.

I understand your frustration, but as PP'ers have stated, everyone has the right to get married whenever they want. As long as no one has to travel, I would expect everyone would be in town and available for both weddings. If I'm looking at the calendar correctly, her wedding will be on a Saturday and yours on a Monday. If your RSVP rate is low, it is likely because of the day of the week, not because her wedding was 2 days before.

I wouldn't feel upset unless she was inviting several guests that you plan on inviting since it may be difficult to attend two weddings within 48 hours.
If that's not the case then I wouldn't sweat it.

She wants my fiancé to be in her wedding and she’s a bridesmaid in our wedding. I’m not worried about guest.

Your feelings are valid however you only get one day she gets one day

I understand that everyone gets their one day and deserves to pick whichever day they want, but that’s REALLY close! Especially with wedding party crossover and that you already had your date picked. I get why you are concerned because it’s literally in the same 3 day span. I’m sure everything will be fine, don’t let it stress you out too much! I don’t think it will change anything about your wedding.

While you have every right to feel however you want, she has every right to decide when she wants her wedding. I don't really see how having your weddings two days apart really interfere with anything other than if she plans on going on a honeymoon right away. In which case, it would be her own fault for planning her wedding two days before yours knowing she's supposed to be a bridesmaid in your wedding. I will also add that because of Covid venues/vendors availability is more limited because a ton of weddings were postponed until next year so that might have been the only date that was available around when she wanted to get married. Also, her wedding is a Saturday which is very common day to get married whereas yours is a Monday which is very random and might not be as convenient for guests, but she might have wanted a day that was more convenient for guests to attend. My advice is to continue planning your wedding and not to worry about hers.

I would be very upset. She could have picked any day.. why does have to be the same week. I disagree with a bunch of the comments. I think it’s wrong for her to pick a day so close if it’s a close friend. I’m getting married June 26th 2021 and my sister in law (who wasn’t even engaged yet at the time) tried to book her wedding for august 2021 and I flipped b/c a lot of the guest list overlapped and people would have to choose which wedding they came to. She didn’t end up booking for august but I totally understand your frustration

If there was little to no guest list overlap and neither of you/your SOs were involved in each other's weddings, that would be one thing.

Yes, June is a popular month and there are limited available dates for 2021, but I completely understand being annoyed.

Most people are incredibly busy the week of their wedding with finalizing details, dropping off decorations, etc.; I can't imagine my husband being in a wedding two days before ours -- or two days after, for that matter.

However, there's not much you can do about it. I would continue focusing on your wedding as planned.

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I can definitely understand how it would be stressful if you guys are supposed to be in each others weddings. That will be a lot going on when it comes to the actual day. Like some of the other people said, have you talked to her about it at all?

View Quoted Comment Okay, I can definitely see your frustration with this.

They’re getting married in another state. So it’s not even convenient for us to attend and be apart of our each other weddings.

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Then I can definitely see why you'd be upset. Unfortunately, I don't think there is much that can be done unless you both plan on traveling right before/after your weddings so you can be a part of each others weddings. Is there a reason she picked that date such as a special meaning or limited venue availability?

You are not wrong to be upset but if she decides she is too exhausted from her wedding then you know she may not be a true friend. Things like this bring out peoples true colors!

I get what people are saying about she can pick her day, and you each have feelings, but I would be so upset. Its inconsiderate as she is asking you to be in her wedding days before your own. I would be frustrated and then be blunt that I wouldn't attend her wedding now due to your own that she new about. Then she can make the same choice if she pleases. To me it seems as though she does not honor your friendship enough to be considerate.

You're getting married on a Monday. I'm presuming you're expecting a smaller guest count anyway.


If you're in each other's weddings, and you're in different states, she clearly didn't plan this out very well.
If you're not comfortable traveling so close to your wedding, let her know asap and see if you can attend via livestream. That one is on her.
You get to feel how you feel, but I don't think your friend is "right" or "wrong". She gets to do what she wants.

You have a right to your feelings but unless there is guest overlap, there's nothing you can do.

I would be mad also so your not wrong for that.. If she was a friend that would of have not happened maybe months later or a yr later on that day but not the same month...