Friend booked my venue after me but pushed her wedding to before mine

Did she know you had booked it?

It might be at the same place but I’m sure you’ll have different weddings. I wouldn’t let it bother me. Right after I booked my venue I suggested it to a close friend who became engaged.

Will you have the most of the same guests at your wedding? If not, I wouldn’t fret about it.

I booked the same venue that my coworker booked a year later. I always knew I was going to get married there so it didn’t matter to me either way. We have different tastes and a different guest list with the exception of like 5 coworkers. It’ll be fine.

View Quoted Comment Yes, i told her right away, she wasnt even engaged at that point. They were talking about getting engaged & doing a cruise wedding until they dropped this bomb on me 2 days ago. They told me after they booked it

If she heard about it from you, and realized it would suit her wedding, I don't see the issue. A big wedding venue will have often several weddings every week. What's unique about yours is that it is the only wedding for the two of you--which is enough, if you remember to invite only people who care about the two of you.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately yes, we have a lot of the same guests

View Quoted Comment Still, it’ll be fine. Like a PP said, your wedding is already different because it’s about you and your FS. Just move ahead with your plans and don’t even stress about it. It’s minor.

View Quoted Comment Its not a big wedding venue. I live in a small town & she lives in the metro. Its in my area. I guess ill make the best of it, but i still dont think it was right. Had she done it after i wouldnt have had an issue.

I really don't understand the problem, it's just a venue. Lots of people have used it and lots of people will use it. If you want to somehow "best" her, which honestly makes me want to roll my eyes, see what she does at her wedding and make yours "better". But really no one really cares, and the sooner you can say "yup we chose the same place because it's a fantastic venue" the better off you'll be. Woman up, don't give anyone a reason to think you are petty.

View Quoted Comment So why exactly does it bother you. Do you think your guest will think you copied her???

I just would never have done this to her, but ecetone

Ugh my phone is being weird. Everyone has different views on what is socially acceptable i woudnt have done this but i guess people think it's more acceptable than i had originally thought. Our wedding are different im providing dinner & drinks, she is having her guests pay i guess she is not "hosting" food she said. So yes hers will be much different than mine just the same room of the same venue but different event

Are you aware that there are places where there only is ONE venue and every couple in the area uses it?

There is also an old saying "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery."

Don't share any more of your wedding planning with her.

I mean, I see why OP is frustrated. I'd be frustrated if someone was "copying" me too. On the bright side, both weddings will be their own unique event, so I'd do my best to not let it stress me out too much. The biggest thing is that you get to marry your partner, and the location (or someone else using that location) isn't important.

View Quoted Comment Lol I don't plan on it

View Quoted Comment The sheer fact that you are actually hosting your guests makes it the winner. Having the same venue and you doing the right thing will leave guests talking about how your wedding was so much better

I really don’t see the problem. It’s just a venue. There’s only so many venues in each town/city that thousands of brides use each year. Maybe that’s the only venue that fit her wedding style and her budget. If you’re afraid that she’s going to copy you then don’t share anymore wedding details with her.

I’d be pissed.

As pp said I know it’s frustrating but honestly let her have her wedding before yours if she wants to rush that’s on her continue your plans and keep your details to yourself.

I see exactly where you’re coming from. I would be super frustrated and upset. So you havs every right to be. Nobody likes to be copied. Especially when it comes to something that’s super special to you like your wedding. Every woman wants her wedding to be special and unique. That’s why we spend so much time planning it. So that fact that she went and booked it after you told her about it, gives you the right to be frustrated.