Forced bridesmaid

Honesty is the best policy. Explain to FH your feelings on this. If you don't mind her serving another service at the ceremony, maybe a reading?

I agree with Mary, maybe try giving her another role?

It's too early for you to pick your bridal party right now, but you don't need to including anyone that you don't want to.

I would give her another role since bridal party has already been decided.

Ask her to do a reading at the ceremony.

Ask and answer yourself the following questions; why don't you want her? I know it's your wedding but that will be your sister in law, is that how you want into this family? If you have a fair reason behind not wanting her there, the be honest. As for me, ugly, pretty, fat, skinny, if my FH had a sister she'd be at the wedding, but that's me. This is your wedding, not mine. Do what makes you happy!

I'm in the same situation. I'm not close to his sister and I have 4 close friends in the BP. If I was going to ask another person it would be another friend. Stick to your guns and keep it to those you feel closest to whether that's family or friends. She can also stand on his side.

I will add that my FH recently asked her to do a reading and she said "No" if she couldn't be a bridesmaid she didn't want to participate at all which is fine too. But my point is you can extend the invitation for your FSIL to participate or be involved in some other capacity.

@Maria I don't think it's about that for the OP. I think it's just a matter of she's not very close with her FSIL, which is a very valid reason to not include her in the bridal party. Not inviting her to the wedding would be one thing, but who the bridesmaids are is completely up to the bride, and it's not necessary to include family if you're not particularly close with them.

I'm with PPs and have her do a reading. That's a good compromise for an FSIL a bride doesn't know all that well.

If he wants her in the wedding, she should be a groomswoman.

My two future SIL will be in our wedding. I wouldn't have it any other way.

It's his sister. If he wants her in the wedding party, then she should be a groomswoman; he should not be asking you to accommodate her with a role in the wedding party if he, too, wants her in the wedding party.

It's unfair of him to make decisions, or even suggestions, as to who stands beside you, just as it would be unfair if you tried to pick out his groomsmen for him.

Explain to him that although you like her,you&him both have your people to pick.he picks his groomsmen&you pick your bridesmaids and you already have picked your friends/ family that you want it to be.....thats just like im really close to my male cousins and wish i could have them in my wedding,but i dont pick the guys my fiance does

The groom's sister is traditionally asked to be a BM. For future family relations, I'd ask her.

Honestly, if he wants her in the wedding so badly, he could make her a groomswoman.

She can be a groomswoman

Why can't she be a groomsmaid and stand on his side?

I think it's rude to expect to be in the BP and to fuss about it. If the FSIL was best friends with the bride, I could understand the expectation but otherwise, it makes no sense. It's you and your fiance's day so compromise but be firm on what you want.

I asked FSIL to be in the wedding as one of my bm. She is FH's ONLY sibling. We get along just fine, but we are not yet very close, that could always change over the years. I couldn't imagine not having her in the wedding though. We both only have one sister. It didn't seem right to me that my sister be included , and his not be. Personally, I would ask her. Other PP have mentioned her being on his side, and I think that is also a fair idea if he is up for it. Either way, I would find a way to include her.