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fmil and Lingerie

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Anna, on February 11, 2020 at 1:31 AM

Just wondering if this is "normal" or if i'm overreacting. On Saturday my fmil and I went shopping. She doesn't have any daughters so she asked me if i can help her pick a dress. At the mall she asked me if i already have my wedding night lingerie. I told her no and i'm still looking. She then drags me into Victoria secret. She told me she want to help me pick some out and buy it for me. I felt so uncomfortable. She said her sister did that to her future daugter in law. I told her i didn't like anything, i lied, and walked out. She told me she wants to take me next month to pick some out. I don't know if i'm making a bigger deal, but i just don't like this. Is this a thing fmil do? I find it weird that she's planning on buying me lingerie for that night. LIke i don't want her to know what i will wearing. I am planning on lying to her and tell her i found some on sale. Its just weird cause its his mom. But i do feel very uncomfortable. Sorry if i'm all over the place but i'm just in shocked this happened lol. Just want to know what you ladies think about this.

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Devoted September 2020
Queen Cone · on June 23, 2020 at 12:25 PM
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I feel like throwing up thinking about my FMIL and I doing that. tell her youre uncomfortable!
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Annika · on July 22, 2020 at 10:19 AM
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I LOVE lingerie and would love if a FRIEND bought me some but my mom or MIL??? HELL NO girl. If she gave a gift card, that would be totally fine in my opinion since she wouldn't be seeing what you buy but getting the actual pieces and knowing that her SON will be seeing you in it....that's just icky. My MIL and I are very close and talk about girl stuff all the time but she would never cross those boundaries because there's an unspoken agreement that those things are just not appropriate for my MIL and I to discuss. I hope she will understand and be respectful of your boundaries in the future! She probably doesn't mean any harm by it.
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Devoted October 2020
Teresa · on July 28, 2020 at 6:00 PM
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I think you might want to consider if his family is open about the bedroom talk. For instance my family, sex talk was NEVER discussed. For the FH's family they aren't detailed about it but they are way more open about bedroom talk than I was ever used to. Perhaps instead of lying to her, because that's never a healthy thing, go out for a nice coffee date and tell her why it makes you feel weird. Tell her that while you 100% appreciate the thought and you are trying to accept it, you just can't.
Then tell her if she is insistent on buying you something for the honeymoon night you'd love <fill in the blank>. For me I would say "I would really like what I am wearing that night to be a secret and while I am certain you can keep that secret; I would know someone else knows what my husband is getting to see. So I was thinking that maybe you could buy some, perfume, rose petals, champagne, or candles that I can use to make it a bit more romantic and memorable for us both."
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