Flowergirl: Buy the dress or get her a present?

How old is your flower girl?

I think paying for the flower girl dress is a very nice gesture, but depending on how old she is, not something that she herself will appreciate/understand. I definitely wouldn't encourage you to pay a lot of money on top of that, but I do think you should give the flower girl something that is specifically for her. Maybe a coloring book and crayons she can use during the reception? An inexpensive children's play purse? This would run you maybe $10, but would mean so much to her.

I didn't buy our FGs dress, her mom did. I guess I can see how its a nice thing to her but technically that is a gift to the mom and not the actual FG. I got my FG a cute little tote bag that has her name embroidered on it. I think it will suffice and be something fun for her.

I agree it's a gift to the parents of the flower girl, not the flower girl herself, but she's a kid, so she's not expecting anything so maybe a cute teddy bear or something like that would be more than enough.

I think you should get the FG a present. My FG dress was $30 but the mom paid for it. My FG is only going to be 7 and I think it's good leverage for the parent to say "well if you behave during the wedding, bride is going to give you a present" even though you will give it to her anyways lol

I would get her a gift. It will make her feel special.

I would go present, as well. It's more personal and it'll mean a lot to her. Maybe a little glam tiara?

I would get her a gift, something that she can keep. My aunt gave me pearl earrings when I was the FG in her wedding and I'm wearing them on my own wedding day! I think it would be nice for her to have her own memento from the wedding, rather than just knowing that her dress was paid for. Kids don't pay attention to who buys what for them anyway, so it really is a gift for the mom.

My cousin paid for my dress to be rented, and my hair to be fixed. Honestly back then I never heard of a gift for the flower girl and I never recieved one. I was happy with the dress and having my hair done; I felt like a little princess. I thought I was special because I was the only one to wear white with the bride and it had a train just like her dress.

I'm paying for all the kids clothes (11 of them, eeeek!) and I am also paying for babysitters to watch them throughout the night so that Mommy & Daddy get to have a good time too. They've never been to a wedding before, and they already have so many things, I'm not buying them gifts.

Thanks guys, I never thought of the dress as a gift to the parents but I can see how that be seen that way. I might get her a couple small things. She will be at the wedding shower with her mom. So I might get her a bear, oriental trading had one where you can have flower girl and the date put on the feet, and something for the day of, like a movie.

The flowergirl is four so that work better too and keep her entertain during the reception also.

I'd go with the present, especially if the ring bearer is getting one. She might feel left out otherwise.

I purchased the flower girl dresses for my 3 flower girls however with little girls you can be rather crafty. Depending on the date of your wedding you may be able to find some nice deals example I purchased mine form Burlington around easter for like $ 20.00 each and I found their shoes from payless on sale for $7.00 and used a $4.00 coupon. Although I didn't break the bank their dresses are very pretty and super girly!! As far as gifts I purchased Hello Kitty gift bags from Michaels for 3.99 with a 40% off coupon of course and filled it with all kinds of Hello Kitty things, bubbles, necklace, bracelet, and candy. I put everything in it to drive their mom's nuts lol. Bottom lone kids will love um and you too!! I think if your patient enough you can do them both. Kids appreciate wayyyy more than adults and they will always remember when they felt like a beautiful princess because of you!!

Good luck

We are paying half the cost of the dress and getting our girls a gift.

Oh yes one more thing... even a date night with just you and the flower girl. Im sure she would LOVE IT!!

I found my flower girl's dress for $20 and made sure it was one she could wear more than just for my wedding. And since the dress was so cheap and the ring bearer will be getting a gift because his mother is paying for his attire, I will be getting her a present as well. Nothing big, but something to keep her happy. (: