Flower girl dress issue

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No the OP clearly states that she communicated that the Mom would be responsible for paying but the exact amount was never discussed. So when OP presented her with some options the Mother had every right to say - "I agreed to pay but those are out of the range of possibility for my finances". She did not have to decline. No one sets a budget but the person footing the bill.

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Again...if the mom had such a tight budget when the Bride told her there is going to be a financial obligation she should have stated I agree but please know that I am on a tight budget. It was her responsibility to be clear and direct with what she could afford. She shouldn't have agreed and assumed the Bride would pick a dress that's $20, that's ridiculous. I agree the bride should not set the budget (unless she's paying), but the mom failed at communicating her budget from the beginning.

$50-60 is a reasonable price range for someone who has stable income, but it sounds like she may be needing extra help since she's living with her parents and raising her daughter on her own. It's tricky talking to a person about financial obligations, especially when you thought you were clear, but it can also be embarrassing to be on the other end. Try to proceed with caution! I would maybe do a quick search to see if there are any dresses in Macy's or a BonTon that would have sales or clearances that you could take advantage of. If it's simply not an option for her, you may have to consider 1) how much you want their dresses to match, and 2) whether or not you are willing to contribute to this dress. Best of luck to you! And if this is the biggest hiccup that your wedding sees, you are super blessed! I am sure it will be a beautiful day.

Thanks everyone for the suggestion and opinions!. I will continue to search closer to her price range. I'm already paying for certain items for her anyhow and am not paying for the dress . Believe me I get being tight on money , I did it for a long time. I NEVER make her feel bad about having a tight income. I've helped her out several times not wedding related. But all will be fine in the end

View Quoted Comment Do you have a Giorgios Menswear outlet at your local mall or anywhere close by? We have the same issue with my little brother because tux rentals for kids are crazy prices imo! We were at the mall when we noticed Giorgios and went in for a look. You can BUY a tux for $60-$80 for your son there. It includes the coat,pants,vest,and tie. The only issue is that their website is really terrible so you’d have to go in store to see the options.

View Quoted Comment I wish we did! My son barely fits the boys sizes though. He and FH are adamant that they match tuxes. When he tried on tuxes in February, he was wearing men’s pants, and largest size kids jacket. Chances are he’ll need Men’s size tux.

Costco sells really cute girls dresses pretty reasonably priced this time of year.

I ordered my flower girl dress from amazon and it cost 25$ I think if she can only afford so much if you have picked the dress if you could cover the difference then that should work. If not then look for a cheaper option!

Don't know if you have a Burlington in your area but my niece came across a lot of dresses yesterday. I also just left Target and they have vute dresses as well. Now is a good gime to visit departments store caise all the Easter dresses are out. Pics are from BCF

So half of me wants to say it’s your wedding and if she doesn’t like it then she can take a hike, but the other half of me understands her side. She lives with her parents and is a single mom, she doesn’t really have the money for a dress her daughter is going to grow out of in 6 months and will realistically only wear it once..

If she's living at home with her parents and a single mother she's already financially struggling... and 50-70$ is A LOT of money especially for a 3 year olds dress...

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Actually I think it was OP's responsibility to be clear and direct with what she expected the costs would be. Why should the friend have assumed the OP's choices were going to be higher than she could afford? I don't see where the OP asked for a budget.

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We can just agree to disagree. Sounds like the Bride is being careful with the $$ situation, so all is well. I personally don't assume the cost of things when I'm on a budget, I like to know before I agree to it. To each their own though

My flower girl's dress was $16 at costco. There's some great dresses right now with easter!

I paid $19 for mine...and she's so cute in it

If you want the more expensive dress maybe you can gift it to your FG/ goddaughter?

My FG’s dress was $18.99 on amazon we paid for our FG & RB clothing and their sisters (close family friends w/4 kids, 2nd sister is handing out programs) and my nephews (handing out programs) I just paid for it bc some of the stuff I wanted was pricey and I didn’t want them to pay for it. But we were fortunate to be in that position.
I understand you told her when asking that being in the wedding it was a financial obligation but did you tell her about how much she should have budgeted to ensure this would work? Or did you ask what her budget was?

If its only a $20 to get the exact dress you want to it will match an older child’s dress why not just paynot? Instead of causing a fuss or starting a fight just tell her you will give her the difference. That seems like the easiest solution

I ordered all my flower girl dresses on wish.com. I know they can be a gamble but they are great! And they only cost about $15 with shipping.

I see both sides here. But I also believe the easiest thing to do is just buy the $50 dress yourself, whether she’s right or wrong, and not stress over it.