Flower girl dress issue

What might be manageable for you, is obviously not manageable for her. If you want a more expensive dress, can you pay the difference?

A 3 yr old will also likely grow out of that dress before she has another occasion to wear it.

There is no point in discussing someone's budget if you are going to ignore it.

Zulily has dresses at a lesser price point. They also sell dresses in a full range of sizes available in the same style- from 12 months to 12 years if you want them in the same dress.

This dress is $29.

If she has clearly stated a budget to you and you wish to go over that then you should pay the difference IMO. While it would have been more helpful for her to tell you upfront perhaps she did not think a child's FG dress would be that expensive and when you showed her some options she was at least upfront about it before anything was ordered.

Now that you have that information you have two choices - you can find different dresses within that price range to go over with her or you can offer to pay the difference for the dress you want. You cannot dictate someones budget or what is manageable for them.

Do I think its a lot? No. But if its out of her budget its out of her budget. Offer to pay the difference.

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You could get a size 4 and a size 8. That should work. Lots of options under $40. Ive heard of people who have used this site as well.

Why does she need to give you wiggle room for HER finances? That's not how it works. The dresses don't have to be identical, but can be similar. Why does she need to go beyond what she's comfortable paying? If it's that important that they match (it clearly is), can you pay the $20-30 difference? Don't make her feel bad regarding her finances, nor ask her to go beyond what she's comfortable paying.

To rent our son's tux, is around $140... UGH... I'm looking into alternatives, because that's just ridiculous to us, and he grows so fast, he'd not really get another opportunity to wear it if we bought one..

I think that is a bit for a flower girl dress. I found amazing dresses on amazon for $20 and they are super cute. If the dress is that much and she needs shoes it will add up

Was just going to suggest there. I found 2 beautiful dresses there and they were under $30 each! Right now, with Easter dresses, is a great time to found some.

I would just buy the little girls dress for her, if it's that important to you to have this particular one.

Flower girl and ring bearers

Well, considering you don't think it is too expensive, why don't you go ahead and buy the dress if you want them to match so much?

As another PP pointed out, with the rate small children grow, even if the dress can be worn again, she very likely won't be able to because she would have outgrown it. But, regardless, if it is not in your friend's budget the only options you have are: change dress to a less expensive one, pay the difference or pay the whole thing.

I do think it's a little unfair to you that she's not willing to work with you on the price. You and her agreed BEFORE she accepted that she could afford such a cost. I understand that people's finances can change, but if she's that's tight on money she should have said so from the beginning. I don't think $60 is too much, that's close to what ours are. I would try your best to work within her new budget and if all else fails then maybe you can buy the dress? I'm buying our flower girls dresses because their family is tight on money. I adore those little girls so I just wanted them to be happy. Best of luck