"Fishing" for the Garter

We did it and it was uneventful. Not a production at all - quick and painless. We used Joan Jett's "Bad Reputation" though.

We had the same talk, I wanted to skip it and H got super sad. It's his wedding too so I compromised. It's not like you have to have the garter up your hoo-hah! I had mine like two inches above the knee and it was tame. He was under there for like 5 seconds max and it wasn't this huge production. Let him have his fun

At @mimitrue that's perfect!

I think it's a great idea with a funny spin

We were literally just having this conversation. FH really wants to do it so I gave in but I'm going to have it by my knee.

My husband did it because he wanted to but then forgot the song he chose (Ginuwine My Pony). Our crowd loved it, and he only pretended to grab it with his teeth. It made for some fun pics and I think this may be another one of those "brides are overthinking it" moments. Like you said yourself, its one of the few things he actually wants. Give it to him.

If he really was looking forward to it I would compromise and try to do it.

I'd say let him do it, it'll be over so quick and you guys will have a lifetime to remember that funny, awkward moment. Men don't ask for much during this time so I think that's a small gift to give to your FH!! Don't worry about what others think!

I'd say let him do it, it'll be over so quick and you guys will have a lifetime to remember that funny, awkward moment. Men don't ask for much during this time so I think that's a small gift to give to your FH!! Don't worry about what others think!

Awkward moment are awkward because they're awkward.

And when is having to be inappropriate considered a gift? If she's uncomfortable, she's uncomfortable. If she views it as inappropriate and uncomfortable, then it's inappropriate and uncomfortable.

Don't do it if you're not comfortable with it. I had ZERO desire for anyone to see up my dress and focus on my thighs. I bought a garter despite not wanting to do it, and then "forgot" to put it on and do it.

2 years later, he has never ONCE said, "Damn, honey, why didn't you let me take your garter off at the wedding?"

If he's dreamed of it I'd definitely just do it. Just put it slightly above your knee. At the end of the day its like a minor 2 minutes. Plus the focus should be on him during the garter toss. Just keep that in mind.

@victoria. Love your pic and song choice

Personally, I think that the whole garter ceremony is strange, awkward, and uncomfortable. I do not want my husband crawling up my skirt in front of everyone we know. This may sound catty, but if FH were to say that this were the only thing he wanted, I would still say no because it makes me incredibly uncomfortable.

My FH wants to do this. It wasn't even on my radar. He has to pick the song. I know for him it has value because he caught the garter at a friends wedding three years ago....and he's the next getting married from their group. He's given me so many things during planning this that it'll probably be two minutes of funny with drinks in my system. I can do that for him.

But if it really makes you super uncomfortable, talk to him. I think he would understand.

I asked FH about this because he's right next to me. His response was "if I'm going under your dress on our wedding day, I'm not coming back out for a looooong time. Definitely not letting people see that." Soooo yeah. I'm very glad he doesn't want to!

I'm looking forward to it more then he is. But I was in dance so showing leg in ridiculous proportions is not awkward for me.

If it is just a bit awkward then one compromise with him. If your truly uncomfortable with the idea beyond stage fright, for lack of better term, then just say no. Everyone has different comfort levels and you pick what comfy for you.

When I told my FH the history of the garter toss, he quickly realized why it was so humiliating to the bride, so we decided to put it on a football. Little does he know I'm ordering a garter in his favorite team's colors for him to find later

I've seen a fake garter on a football. That was cute. There was no digging up the bride's dress. Everyone thought it was cute.

I personally didn't feel awkward about it. In fact, DH was just going to reach his hand under my dress, but I coaxed him to go completely under. It was fairly quick, and we both had fun with it. We picked Hot Stuff by Donna Summer for the song and he did a bit of the dance the guys in the Full Monty did to the song.

Wait what? Unless you feel comfortable dont do it.Honestly I find it stupid and not worth stopping the dancing and talking.

Should I start a new tradition and stick my hand down FH pant to retrieve a handkerchief and then throw it in the air and see who catches his crotch handkerchief?

Edit: I would like to add that my FH and his friends (most are married) have a tradition that they all get a kiss from the bride. I told him I will sock anyone in the face that kisses me that is not him. And yes I mean it.

The garter toss is honestly very common in my area and happens at every wedding. Normally it's done after everyone has had quite a few drinks and are letting loose so it doesn't seem as awkward. I'll let FH do his thing and laugh nervously with a glass of wine in my hand.