First House Fund instead of Honeymoon Fund

If I'm invited to the wedding I always bring a monetary gift. I've learned monetary or physical gifts are based on social circles and regional norms. Since, I'm already giving you cash, I'm not putting extra towards the jar.

I think both are rude. I'm fine with a dollar dance because of culture but a jar that says hey put money in me makes the whole event seem like a money grab, if I wanted to give you money I'd put it in a card, its more personal that way.

Maybe consider registering for a First House Downpayment on Honeyfund.com. Just make sure you enable the "gift certificate" option rather than the pay online option, so guests give you the full amount with a print out of what "gift" it is for rather than having fees taken out for online payment.

Etiquette tells a guest to bring money in a card to the wedding. I would find putting a jar out rude.

I could see something on your website saying about how excited you are to be saving up for your first house together (I had a friend do that, I didn't think it was rude). However, a jar I would consider rude. At that point I already chose your gift/wrote your check for your card and it seems like you are asking for extra on top of the gift I decided I could afford to give you.

I would not contribute to a jar labeled anything. I give cash in the card for wedding gifts.

I would certainly be put off by a jar asking for money. I would also probably not put money in it either.

Hi Liz,

The advice that I got when trying to figure out a way to let people know that I wanted $$ instead of physical gifts, was to tell a few people within your circle that you're not having a registry, and that you and FH would prefer monetary gifts to save for your new house. By word of mouth, and by common sense, you not having a registry and that word slowly spreading will pretty much get you the result you're looking for. :-)

Honestly I'd be put off..I would think the money the couple spent on the wedding could have been saved and put toward the house.

I think it's rude and tacky no matter what you call it or what you're looking to fund.

Thank you for the input everyone! I had a feeling that most, if not everyone, would feel this way. I was just curious. I have a small registry, since we are going to have to store most of the stuff until we get a house, and I will probably just leave it at that. If people want to gift money, then great! If not, I will enjoy celebrating with them just as well.