First fight box?

What's a first fight box?

First fight box? wut?

i think our first fight was a good 5 years ago, and we arent even married yet..

Is there anything else you like to drink?? As long as it's not something that expires quickly it would work.

ETA when my friend did a first fight box they included a bottle of wine & notes from each other about why they loved the other. They put this in a wood box and hammered it shut during their ceremony. When they have their first married fight they're supposed to open the box, drink the wine and read the letters together. They opened it about a week after the wedding.

I'm with Niki.. had our fair share of fights.

But.. maybe letters to remind you why or how much you love each other. Reading sweet nothings always cheers me up.

I really dislike this idea, preparing for your first fight as a married couple is just weird. also I dont know about you but during fights my first thought is definitely not "man, a glass of wine and a letter you wrote me would really make me less mad at you"

but to answer your actual question, if you dont drink i would leave a beverage out altogether. the point of the wine is to be relaxing.

I thought Ashley B did a good job explaining it. When we have our first fight as a married couple, we open the box, read the love letters we wrote to each other and drink the (whatever) that is in it.

Not sure what a first fight box is, but I don't think I would want to be thinking of fighting and put something like that together during a marriage ceremony uniting us for "happily ever after". Is this a new trend?

The first rule of fight box is you don't talk about fight box.

This is...a little strange. Our officiant suggested this box, but it's for the first major fight: meaning if there was a fight so serious that has brought to mind separation or divorce, THEN open the box and proceed. The whole point is the hope that you never need to open it, and if so, it helps remind you of why you got married.

What is the point of doing it without alcohol? Doesn't that defeat the purpose?

Doing it without alcohol defeats the purpose of what? I don't drink so I don't see how alcohol would help us when we're fighting. We've made it through fights before without alcohol. Why should we start drinking when we have our first major fight as a married couple? Maybe I'm missing something....

@OriginalLaura: I get your train of thought, but not everybody drinks. DF and I don't, and even if we did, I think wine tastes like nasty molded grape juice, so it would be lost on us. I don't see any issue with subbing a sparkling juice or cider, assuming you're willing to swap out bottles every year or so to avoid expiration. The point of the box is to create a romantic, loving moment in the midst of a serious upheaval, to help the couple regroup and refocus. It's not dependent upon alcohol.

We called it a wine (and Bourbon) box ceremony. On our 5th anniversary, we'll open the box to read the letters we wrote to each other and drink the wine and Bourbon that we had served on our wedding day. I wouldn't call it a fight box.... That's a bit unsettling for a wedding.

I also second the lube idea if you're sticking with calling it a first fight box.

It's a cute idea but I don't love doing it at the wedding ceremony...maybe something in private

I think I've heard of it as a 'when times get tough, we'll open this bottle of wine and read our love letters' type thing before. We're doing a 'marriage box' to put copies of vows and/or love letters in, and then add to throughout our marriage.

We're also including notes from out guests (instead of a guest book), and asking our bridal party to write something for us (they have my permission to make it as short as they want). I'm not sure what else you could include that would be nonperishable.

I think I've heard of it as a 'when times get tough, we'll open this bottle of wine and read our love letters' type thing before. We're doing a 'marriage box' to put copies of vows and/or love letters in, and then add to throughout our marriage.

We're also including notes from out guests (instead of a guest book), and asking our bridal party to write something for us (they have my permission to make it as short as they want). I'm not sure what else you could include that would be nonperishable.

Consider doing a truce bell ceremony. It's hilarious and fun. DH and I did one. It's an Irish tradition, and I am Irish, but you certainly don't have to be. It's actually a very sweet thing.

I like the anniversary box idea way better than a fight box

maybe its the counselor in me, but incorporating anything about fighting into the ceremony feels kinda unnecessarily negative to me

Chocolate-- who can stay mad when there's chocolate?