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Savvy November 2016

FILs wont come to wedding if it's not Catholic

April, on July 31, 2016 at 1:19 AM

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So, my FH back in March decided not be apart of the Catholic church anymore. A decision he made 100% on his own based on his own personal beliefs. They are Vietnamese and when he tells them he does not want a Catholic wedding all they say is "you can't do that". He has not told them he has stopped...

So, my FH back in March decided not be apart of the Catholic church anymore. A decision he made 100% on his own based on his own personal beliefs. They are Vietnamese and when he tells them he does not want a Catholic wedding all they say is "you can't do that". He has not told them he has stopped going to church yet but is planning to, he is just very afraid and doesn't know what to tell them and how to tell them. So, today, FOUR MONTHS TO THE WEDDING, they tell us they willl not go because it is a sin. Is it a last attempt to try and persuade us to do a catholic wedding? Are they serious? Has anyone else dealt with this?

A little back ground, FH and I have been together for 3 years. We have a beautiful 2 year old daughter and live together for 2.5 years!! We are have a neutral wedding, we were hoping to TRY and make everyone happy. (if only we were that lucky!)

PLEASE DON'T TELL US TO JUST GIVE IN TO HIS PARENTS

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  • StarKitty
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    StarKitty ·
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    In the end, it is your day. His parents already had the wedding they desired and if they choose not to come because they make it about them and their discontent, that is ultimately their loss even if you both feel very bad about it.

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  • Katiegirl
    Savvy September 2017
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    Hold your ground. This is your wedding not theirs. If they are threatening not to come then let THEM make that decision and you do what makes your wedding what you picture it to be. Everyone gets a little hurt when it comes to weddings and some people get more upset than others. Its just what happens. My roommate is a lot like you FH, and I can imagine she will go through the same ordeal.

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