Fight With Bridesmaid

Having an aunt talk about your unborn child like that is no time for your mom to be Switzerland. My mom would curse out her sister quicker than I could if they pulled that. I would just never talk to the aunt again. Fuck that. She doesn't even deserve you giving an explanation.

Wow and wow. First of all, congrats on the baby. That's great news. Second of all, you are having a BABY, who needs his or her mama to be strong, and who needs to be STRESS FREE and drama free, for your sake and the baby!!! Girl text her and break up. If she won't take a phone call then just text her. Is she a mother??? I only ask because I can't imagine a parent saying something like that to someone. I really can't imagine anyone saying that to someone but ya know..

Maybe say "I've thought about it, and I know you don't support my choices but this is MY baby. You're talking down to me, and aren't supporting me in this important stage in my life. I'm not going to allow someone who's acting immature, and rude be in my wedding. If we can mend things in the future, I'll consider inviting you, but as of right now anything to do with mine and my baby's life, including the wedding is off the table."

Jesus Christ. Kudus to you for having so much self restraint. I'm not normally a violent person, but I would have launched my pregnant butt across the table and kicked her ass. I would have been enraged! And I cannot believe your mother didn't intervene. I agree with PP kick her out and don't invite her to the wedding. I'm literally angry for you. lol

This is the perfect situation where it is completely fine to not only remove her from your wedding party, but your life. My first thought was that she is jealous of you having a baby. I don't know her situation, but she should never say what she said to you, and your mom should not be okay with it. You do not need toxic people/energy around you during this time or ever.

Wouldn't be AT my wedding, much less IN it. You don't need this on your wedding day (or really at all).

Is she going through something? Do you think she's jealous?

Frankly if you two are/were really close, I suggest having it out with her. If things cannot be hashed out, distance yourself. There's no reason to be around that kind of negativity. None.

She is way out of line and you have every right to remove her from the wedding. Not just the bridal party but as a guest too. It's rare to see a valid reason for removing a bridesmaid but this is it. Don't put yourself through her negativity, remove her from your life.

Not only would she be out of my wedding party, she would out of my life as well. That is incredibly disgusting of her to say.

Wow. Wow wow woooo oooooow. She wouldn't even get an invite. She wouldn't even be a part of your life. And how can your mother defend her?! Does she not realize that's her GRANDCHILD

Girl be done with her. That's rude AF for her to even have the audacity to even say something like that to you.

Bye Felicia! She sounds horrible. I would say drop her and never look back!

Congrats on the pregnancy!

This is horrifying. Cut her from you life!! What a wench.

You are consenting adults, and there is absolutely NO reason that she can give that can excuse the horrible things she has said.

Yeahhh I wouldn't waste my time hearing her "reasons" about why she's saying these things. They're fucking disgusting. She can be jealous all she wants (if that's even a "reason") but it crosses the line when you're telling someone MULTIPLE TIMES that their child is a mistake and should be put up for adoption. I'd yell at her to fuck off and stop it and then never speak to her again. I wouldn't want someone like that around my children because I could never look at them the same way ever again.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with her negativity. Personally, I have a very low tolerance for people who act like that. She'd be out of my life ASAP, and I'd be having a serious convo with mom about her not sticking up for me.

Best wishes and congrats on the pregnancy!

This woman is a bitch, sorry to say. And your mom not sticking up to you is wrong. Switzerland be damned, if my sister were to say anything like that to my pregnant daughter I would kick her sorry ass, and she would have a hard time picking herself up off the ground. There is no etiquette to worry about here. Someone who not only doesn't have your back, but purposely says things to hurt you, is not someone you need to be around. And your Mom can just STFU, because your aunt doesn't deserve to be in your life, much less your wedding, if she is going to be a hateful asshat!!

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and do not let that hateful person get you down. This should be one of the happiest times of your life, and she doesn't get to ruin this for you, which she can only do if you let her.

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Wow the nerve to say something like that. I'm not the one for "firing" a bridesmaid but honestly Id drop her like a bag of hammers. I'm so very sorry you have to be told those rude and hurtful things.

Wow! Shame on your aunt for treating you so poorly and instilling self doubt. Your aunt is your family and should be providing you with guidance, support, and most of all LOVE. And if she can't be selfless enough to set her own judgement aside and accept your life decisions and the life you are carrying then cast her out.

Yesterday I had tried to call her a few times, and kept getting ignored, so I decided to do it via text to get it over with. If she doesn't have enough respect for me to answer a call, then why should I tip toe around her feelings? Anyways, I said "Hey, just real quick. I wanted to bring up there's been somethings said about Junebug/the pregnancy that has been really hurtful. After talking it over with (FH), we ask that you either keep these opinions to your self, or step down from being a bridesmaid. Thank you for understanding." (Note: Junebug is the baby's nickname since we don't know the gender yet and them/they leads to thoughts if twins often times). I sent that mid evening last night, and have yet to get a reply. I've seen her share stuff on Facebook and such, so maybe she's just ignoring me again.

FH and I decided if she chooses to step down, then we will tell her we don't wish to continue such a relationship and cut ties.

BUT! As if that isn't enough, at dinner last night my Dad asked why I looked so gloomy and I told him everything. "Well, I wouldn't have been that extreme! I would've just told her you're hurt and leave it at that. I think you just made things worse." So now my Dad, who only know what I told him, is against it as well. But, now that I've put my foot down I feel better about the whole ordeal and hope she makes the adult choice.

I would cut her off. The things she said are horrible