Fight With Bridesmaid

All i have to say is WOW.

Get that bitch out of your life.

Fuck her.

If someone were to make a remark like that about a baby/ies, especially to my child, they wouldn't be out of the hospital soon enough to make the wedding.

Your mom enables her? Che palle.

That seems like a very bizarre and over-the-top reaction to finding out my adult niece is pregnant by her fiance. Is there something else missing from the story? (not underage, independent, etc)

I would tell my aunt that she can either support my marriage and my decisions or else not be in/at the wedding.

I wouldn't even have her on my guest list.

It is very bizarre that someone normally supportive suddenly becomes toxic. When it comes down to it though, it doesn't matter why she is behaving this way. It is not ok. Telling her that you do not want to be around her because she is being hurtful and therefore she can no longer be in the wedding is the right thing to do to protect yourself and your child. Maybe she will eventually apologize, explain and mend the relationship, but that is on her.

Update:

There's nothing left out of the story on my end. Yeah, we're young, but we have our own place and we support ourselves. I can't think of a reason for her to be against this. From what I see I announced my pregnancy, she turned into this thing, and now here we are. But I don't know if there's something else going on with her.

I called her a bit ago to talk and she said to text her, so I'll probably wait to do anything. A break up through text sucks.

Mom knows it hurts that she didn't help or anything, but Mom is our Switzerland, she stays neutral to avoid conflict.

Again, thanks for everyone's advice and support!

@FutureMrs.V I typically calmly say something like "I appreciate your opinion, but we've decided to keep and raise them. I'd appreciate it even more if you'd support that choice."

But at lunch I was just like "Wow, thanks for having faith in (FH) and I. I just love having a supportive family that doesn't hurt you!" very sarcastically

First I want to say that is awful and how can someone say that to anyone!? I am so sorry she is so hateful and mean to you!

Second I agree with everyone else and your FH! Fire her and do not even invite her! You, your baby and FH do not need that negativity in your life!

Hon, leave the sarcasm out as hard as it is.

Just glare.

I understand that you are extremely hurt and believe me you have every right to be. No one should every say anything like that to anyone regardless someone who supposedly loves you. You have two choices...you can remove her, ignore, her and uninvited her to everything or you can sit down with her, explain that her words hurt you deeply and were extremely hateful. Perhaps she had a reason (Im not saying that the reason is acceptable as honestly I can't imagine every saying something so hateful) but at least listen to her reasoning. Once you guys talk it out then as the conversation continues you can make the decision to keep her or remove her. I wish you luck with whatever choice you make. Honestly only you know if you wish to continue this relationship..if yo undo then a conversation is in order.

Nope, nope, nope. Etiquette has no place here. "Fire her" or just cuss her out and throw away her invitation to your wedding. And certainly do not allow that monster around your baby. Truthfully, I'd be down with destroying her personal property. There is a certain point, that was crossed here by a mile, that all this wedding etiquette we preach (and generally agree upon) is completely overthrown.

If someone EVER had the nerve to tell me that my pregnancy was a mistake or that I should put them up for adoption, I'd cut ties so fast.

I, personally was considered a mistake, and WAS put up for adoption because my birth mother was told by her family to get rid of me. (She was married, and I was the result of a one night stand.)

Based off my experience, I would want to remove this woman from your life. If she's treating you this way now, and saying these things now- how will she treat your beautiful baby?

You all deserve better than to be dealing with someone who treats you like that.

Etiquette is to keep her in the bridal party ... but if she doesnt have any regarding you and your choices and situation, then tough luck sweet cheeks, let her go. you dont need someone who doesnt support you and says things like that to you standing with you on your wedding day. if she has the nerve to bring it up any other day, she will definitely stress you out over it when you're getting married.

That's a deal breaker. Get her not just out of your BP, but out of your life.

I'd tell her she's not only not my bridesmaid but she isn't invited to the wedding. How rude of her.

What the actual fuck?!? And regardless of age, no one can dictate someone else's reproduction. If she doesn't support your pregnancy, she probably doesn't support your marriage. I wouldn't even invite her and I'd be pissed at my mom.

I couldn't have someone who didn't support the wedding as one of my BP.

Get rid of her ASAP! I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

Yeah don't even invite her to wedding , that is so wrong that she said that to you

I would eliminate them both from my life: mom and aunt. Honestly, I probably wouldn't even tell them and just never speak to them again.