Fiance's last name on my invitation

I would put your real last name. It sort of weird and presumptuous of them to assume you're even changing your last name. What if you weren't?

I personally would let it go.I just wouldn't care enough though.

I agree with Future Mrs Matthews

You can't be wrong for writing your own (currently correct) name.

I wouldn't correct them verbally or with the intent to let them know, but to accept their mistake by duplicating may make them feel silly if they realize no one else refers to you by your married name yet.

Correct them! I've been relishing my current last name lol because I'll only have it for a little while longer. I'll start the process of changing it after our honeymoon. Enjoy your last name because you won't have it for much longer.

I agree with Tiki Bird. It was pretty lazy of them to not check and use your current name. . .

My sister does this when she mails something to me and FH. She does it to be cute - and obviously knows its not my last name... she just knows I am excited about the wedding (obviously) and likes to get me fired up

Did you just recently get engaged and they maybe did it to be cute? When FH and I got engaged, we got an invite from some very close friends of ours to their wedding a few weeks later, and it was addressed to "Mr. & Mrs. Dunser" (FH's last name). I thought it was adorable and it made me super excited to be engaged, and to see my future last name! I think it would have been weird had it been a couple we were not close with, but from them, I just loved it!

If it is not like that, just change your name, they won't care

A recent invite had my maiden name, so I used it on the RSVP. However, if they had put us together with his, it would have been fine. Even easier because I had to go off the designated line with both our full names!

Plus it gives you a small opportunity to see your names together, and personally I get a thrill when I think of changing my name to his. And really in the grand scheme, it's not that big a deal. It's not like they are confusing you with someone else.

Idk i dont think its a big deal but i'd probably put my real last name. FH would probably be almost offended if someone sent that as Mrs McDowell and i changed it to my real last name since we're not married yet...but im also pretty weird about jinxing stuff, soooo since its not my last name yet, i still prefer to be called by my real last name.

They should have used your current last name. It's fine to correct it by RSVPing with your current name.

And not every woman changes her last name so these people should not have been presumptuous.

I honestly would not of given a rats ass how it was addressed. Lol it's not like they had malice towards you and wanted to offend you. Maybe lighten up. Also remember sometimes the bride gets help addressing stuff and that person could of done it.

I'd write it the correct way. It's no big deal. They may have been trying to be cute.

My cousin got married two months after us and on their invite i put the future mr and mrs (last name)

If that's just how the outside of the envelope is addressed, I would go ahead and write your real last name on the RSVP. I doubt they will think twice about it, and you won't feel funny doing it. I know personally we have several couples getting married between the time I sent out our STDs and the time I will send out our wedding invites, so it gets confusing as to which last name to use for what. As a bride, I wouldn't be offended at all that someone wrote their real last name on their RSVP card.

I'm confused why they'd even do that. I know someone who was married a year ago and when you ask her about changing her name she says Yeah, I'll get there eventually. I will be using HER last name on the invitation. It's just odd to change someone's name on them, especially a year before the wedding.  To me, that's like someone changing up my first name all of a sudden on you. Lol.

Maybe it was a mistake that it was addressed that way. It is a possibility that she didn't personally address them, and the person addressing didn't pay attention that your last name was different. My mom addressed our invites and I found a couple that she put Mr. and Mrs. Couple. They definitely were NOT married and had NO PLANS to be married.

I personally wouldn't care if I got one addressed with my new last name. Just correct it on the RSVP.

I normally would say I wouldn't correct it... my FHs friends had my last name wrong for years because on fb I only have my first and middle name (so they assumed that was my last name) I love it so I let it be... my only concern is that they make checks out to the incorrect name.... If they give a gift to you in the form of a check and it has the incorrect name on it... idk how that will go over at the bank... just something to think about if no one has brought it up yet and you plan on inviting them to your wedding

I wouldn't correct it - what if they were trying to be cute and excited for you?

I haven't changed my last name yet, but I still answer to Mrs. (Long, complicated Polish last name) on things even though it's not my name and I'm going to hyphenate my name whenever I do change it.

I would write whatever name you want on the RSVP card back to them. I have sent invitations with the wrong name and they just send back their RSVPs with the name they want. There was a girl, who is the sister of FH's friend, whose name is 'Vanessa', but everyone calls her 'Bonnie'...I didn't know that and I sent the invitation to 'Bonnie' and she wrote the RSVP back with 'Vanessa'...no one was upset or offended.

But if the RSVP card already has your name written down as 'Smith', just let it be...it's not a legal document anyway.

What were their intentions? Like a lot of other people said, maybe they were trying to be cute since they know you are engaged! I know I used to loving seeing " Mr. and Mrs. M" before we got married, it made me get even more excited. If you don't like it, change it. I'm sure their intentions weren't at all hurtful or presumptuous.