Fiance wants best friends to stay here during wedding week

I think the friends need to leave prior to you and FH coming to your new home together and a newly married couple. My husband and I had friends that stayed at our home only because we were not there. By Monday morning our friends were heading back and we were so exhausted trying to entertain family the day after the wedding and were happy to go home and rest that night. I even took off the next day. The friends need to let you and hubby have those first few nights alone, just to relax.

Can I ask why you are choosing to get married so soon before you can live properly as a married couple? I have had friends who have been separated for 6-12months after their weddings due to visas/work permits etc but the reality of post-marriage separation can be exceptionally challenging.

Sorry, I know you asked about your friend's accommodation. If they chose to come they should be responsible for their own travel costs and budget accordingly. You are not responsible for other people's finances and travel.

Personally, we have an approximately 1250 sqft house; it's barely 2 bedrooms (one bedroom is 7x8 and doesn't have a closet). We had his brother, GM, GM's gf, nephew, and 4 friends from Utah stay with us the week before the wedding in the house. The night of the wedding, we had all of those people at the house (a couple of them camped as well), plus about 13 people camping on our land.

For us, it was a priority to have those people be at our wedding, and even though we were engaged for close to 2 years, buying plane tickets, staying at a hotel, renting a car, etc would have been difficult from a financial standpoint for them as they have other priorities with their money.

Will it be stressful? A little. But imo, it's worth it to have those people who are so important to you (or in this case, your FH) at the wedding.

One of my big issues was the food because honestly I cannot afford to pay for 2 extra mouths. I told him they would need to help contribute to that. And he agreed. FH eats a lot and honestly sometimes its hard keeping up with his appetite. When I visit FH I always bring some of my own groceries and we even split the grocery bill because I stay longer when I visit. Plus food is more expensive up there. Everywhere I visit I always pay for my own food, or split the bill with whoever I'm staying with, because that's the right thing to do if they are letting you stay in their home.

That is super nice of you FutureMrs. C to do that for the newlyweds.

I would like that LaToya, but I don't see it happening. As much as I want him to myself I guess I'm trying to give him a couple days to see his friend who he won't see in a long time.

Ribenaberry, it's okay that you asked. We want to get married. We already feel like we are anyways except we want to be legally husband and wife. We pretty much live together anyways sometimes 2 weeks at a time on winter/summer break. We also want our grandparents around to see it. We knew months ago we wanted to get married, just lately it's happening and becoming a reality. I lost one of my best friends last week and her service is tonight. It makes me horribly sad to know she won't be there to see it. We definitely want our grandparents, family, and those who are important to be there. The plan honestly works for us. We also rather it look not like a green card marriage. Border patrol can see how many times we visit each other which can help but still we really do want to be married. We love each other so much. We understand the challenges but we can face them together. Thankfully we see each other each month, and during break I can stay way longer.

Thank you. VWCat. FH's best friend is extremely important to him. Therefore the situation is important to me. Even though I don't like sharing, I will because this is his best friend who he most likely won't even see for another year or so. Might not even be until the wedding. I want FH to be happy and have his best friend standing next to him. If it was the other way around, I would want my FH to do that for me.