FH Refusing A First Dance With Me

Can you sign up for a dance class to make him more comfortable?

Maybe communicate how you feel to your FH....

Can you take a few dance lessons or even find a few YouTube vids for basic dancing...do you think he would agree to practice with you for a month & the revisit the '1st dance' topic?!?

I would be very dissapointed. Can you explain that all he needs to do us sway? Or could you do a minute of just you two dancing and then invite all couples so he doesn't feel like eveyone is just watching him?

He sounds nervous. you should practice in your kitchen. if it's a slow song, PP has it right...you just need to sway!

He's in the military and stationed in England so we can't do dance classes and i offered to bring other people on the floor after 2 min or so and he still refusing completely.

Maybe you can do it with your bridesmaids/groomsmen dancing too? That would take some of the focus off of him.

@futuremrsr im definitely going to run that idea past him

Talk to him. Find out why. As PP's have said, maybe he is nervous because he doesn't feel confident dancing. That was my FH issue. We're talking dance classes for $60 bucks (3 sessions!) at the local community college.

I would try classes, or just do part of a song, and then let the rest of the wedding party jump in part of the way through.

Well, you could try doing what married people do which is communicate their feelings. "I was really looking forward to a first dance with my husband and it hurts that I will not be getting that. Is there any compromise we can come to so we are both happy?"

I think you should explain to your FH how this is making you feel and explain that you don't really need to "dance". You can just sway. Doesn't he want to hold you in his arms?

I'm so sorry. But I feel his pain.. I'm actually nervous about that too since I'm not a dancer either. I've even been thinking about skipping the first dance thing too.

Maybe he doesn't want to be the center of attention in that way? Because as PP said, you can do the swaying thing. Doesn't have to be fancy.

My FH hates dancing, and I love dancing. Our compromise is when we go to other weddings I get 2 slow songs and 3 fast songs. Not having a first dance at the wedding never occurred to him. He knows how much it means to me. I know how uncomfortable it will be for him so we are keeping it short. You guys have to find a happy middle. You can't go through life saying no all the time

Maybe see if there are any group/line dances he would be comfortable with, have you and FH start it off and then have others join.

Yea. Don't say anything and bury it deep down. Cuz that's how a heathy marriage works...

I'm really into dancing but my FH is already having panic attacks thinking about it, so I've decided I'd rather have him happy and comfortable rather than freaking out the week leading up to it and the entire day of so we're skipping it. Yeah, I'm a bit bummed, but there are so many other fun things I'm looking forward to about our wedding that I want to enjoy with him without him being in panic mode.

Are you doing a first look? What if you went into a dance during the first look so you have that moment but it's not in front of anyone but the photographer so he won't be on the spot?

^I love that idea, too!