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If it were me and I had the means I would just pay for a hotel room for them since you already agreed they could stay. Then they can come to the wedding and you don’t have to have them in your house.

View Quoted Comment I did mention that to my fiancé. However, he refused. He wants to keep all of them with him. ..

View Quoted Comment Well then sounds like he’s responsible for cleaning the house, feeding and entertaining them.

View Quoted Comment I think I will just go to my parents house if that’s the case for the entire week prior the wedding. Thanks Peggy!

View Quoted Comment Yea I think that’s a good idea

This sounds like what happened with my brother-in-law's wedding. Him and his wife agreed to let a lot of people stay at their house. Afterwards, his wife realized that wasn't a good idea and she was really stressed. She didn't tell them they couldn't stay at their house, but the guests realized on their own that there wasn't enough space so they elected to get a hotel room. It sounds like your fiance is being unreasonable and overdramatic. If there isn't enough room then they should get a hotel. I get that you agreed to it previously, but I would tell them that you've had more time to think about it and there really isn't enough space for all 9 of them. They really shouldn't expect you to host that many people anyways especially on your wedding night.

View Quoted Comment Right! The worst part is that we are still furnishing our home, so there are no beds for the guests yet... I hope the guests realize before I tell them.

View Quoted Comment They definitely need to find a different place to stay. It's great that your fiance wants them all to be with him, but it is unrealistic so he really needs to just be honest with them. He needs to tell them you don't have the space or the beds to accommodate them. If he wants to stay with them so badly tell him to stay at the hotel with them. Not sure why he needs them with him as that sounds super childish to me that a grown man is going to be mad because you guys don't have the space for that many people. Most people don't have the space in their house for 9 extra people and it was rather rude of his family to expect you to host them.

View Quoted Comment Sigh* Exactly! But he is being so unrealistic and hardheaded. I will need to talk to him again and bring some sense.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Veronica!

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! My husband is so stubborn so I totally get. We had fights about his family. Mostly his mom because I agreed to let her make my flower girls dresses but they weren't done until 3 weeks prior to the wedding then had to be altered the night before the wedding and I kept telling him I was buying other dresses for them to wear. He kept insisting they wear the ones his mom made. Men are so much fun. 🙄

View Quoted Comment Lol OMG!! This is something my fiancé would do. Wish me luck!

View Quoted Comment I hope it all works out and you have an amazing wedding 😊

View Quoted Comment 😊Thank you soo much!! 🙏🙏

My hubby and I rented a nice big house near our wedding venue and stayed with our close family the night before and of the wedding. We stayed the day after the wedding and let right the next morning to our honeymoon so it was pretty fun to be able to hang out and catch up with my family that traveled in to see me. The day after the wedding we all woke up had breakfast and reminisced about the night before, both our families stayed a few days more (not at the rental house, back at the family members house) by the time we returned from our honeymoon everyone was gone and we started our new hubby & wife lives!

View Quoted Comment Wow! The things is that I dont know the majority of the people he is br

Bringing to stay at our house. It would have been different if I knew everyone.

View Quoted Comment And we wont go to our honeymoon until next year / or whenever he earns enough PTO hours from his new job.

Why don't you guys stay at the hotel on your wedding night and let them stay there? You also could stay at the hotel or with your MOH the night before?

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Does he want them all staying there on your wedding night? Or does he plan for you and he to be in a hotel that night, or some other alternative?

I totally understand him wanting his family nearby. But there's that line between wanting them close, and total invasion of privacy. Perhaps he hasn't even thought about the wedding night. You should point that out, if you haven't already.

As much as I love my family, I wouldn't want them in the same place (home, hotel) as me on my wedding night. That's just creepy, and I wouldn't be able to relax if I knew my sister or grandma were down the hall.