I come from a big, close-knit family. My fiancé comes from a smaller family, and is only planning to invite his parents, siblings, grandparents, and a couple aunts/uncles. He will of course invite a few friends as well. With the size of my family alone, not even including my friends, our numbers are very disproportional. We don't want an extremely large wedding, but I also don't want anyone in either of our families to be excluded. I definitely don't want his family to feel overwhelmed by mine either.
Should I refrain from inviting members of my family that I don't speak to as often and risk hurting their feelings?
Someone I know mentioned that I could invite people to the ceremony and not the reception, but I've heard from others that this comes off as rude? I don't want to step on any toes. What are your thoughts on how I should approach this situation?