Female at a bachelor party

Ehhhh this is touchy. I'd be a little irritated if it was me, but that's because I'm kind of an insecure person. It just seems a bit weird to me.

I would be ok with FH's female friend attending his bachelor party. Not a big deal to me.

I think you are overreacting. If he wants his friend there then she should be. You don't really get to dictate the who is invited to his bachelor party.

My fiancé brought two girls from his law school on his bachelor party. But they are all part of the same group of friends that he sees all of he time. And those girls boyfriends went too. I didn't mind.

I do think it's kind of weird that he barely talks to her now and he wants her to come.

When I said to him that I will invite a male friend to my bachelorette party he said absolutely not.

I think I am having a bit of resentment bc I recently discovered that he has a double standard on opposite sex friendships. He says that I don't need to talk to guys but when I mentioned his friendship with her he got irritated and said that she doesn't count bc she is his sister.

Edited to add last part of details

Two words; Trust. Issues.

You gotta let the small stuff go. Pick your battles.

ETA: I wanted to add that I don't disagree that it's odd that she's coming. But again, not something worth fighting over, in the grand scheme of things.

Yeah I'm with you on this one. Unless I knew this girl really well I wouldn't be thrilled about it. Same with me though there's only 1 guy friend I can think of my fiancé wouldn't mind attending my bachelorette

If they don't have a past, I would let it go.

ETA: WTF with those double standards? I'd be pissed!

Well I do agree with your double standards comment. If he isn't letting guys at yours, girls shouldn't be at his.

But moreso, I think you both may have some trust issues you need to work through. If you can't do it on your own, you may want to seek counseling. Just a thought, and really want I see as the bigger problem here.

I really don't think everyone should be jumping down your throats about having "trust issues". I'm sure they've had some jealousy issues at some point in their relationship

I think the double standard you mentioned is not good- and trying to control who you talk to is a red flag. It sounds like you guys need better communication. A couple's counselor would be able to give you the tools to effectively communicate better.

It's over a year away. This is not worth your time and does it really matter that much

I would be mad too! There is no way this would occur!

If I felt secure with my relationship then I wouldn't care who was there. My exhusband was a serial cheater, I wouldn't feel comfortable with a nun attending his Batchelor party. He would probably have tried to fool around with her. My fh, he could be in a room full of women that society deems a perfect 10 and I would trust him fully.

If he has been friends with a woman for a significant amount of time then why shouldn't she celebrate with them.

@samantha I have never had jealousy issues with DH. I've always trusted him completely, and I know he feels the same towards me because it's something we've talked about.

I'm sure some people do, but not everyone. Healthy relationships have little to no jealously.

I agree with @Olivia. DH could be standing in a room full of the most beautiful girls and I wouldn't be worried.

My best friend through high school and college was a guy. His wife hated that we were friends. As a result we are no long friends. Don't let your worries ruin a solid friendship.

@samantham- I said trust issues because that's exactly what this screams to me. If I can't trust my FH in the room with another female, we shouldn't be getting married. I haven't had jealousy issues because that's 100% pointless in a relationship. Jealous of who? Jealous why? No. Jealousy is not part of my relationship and I'm sorry that you've gotten the perception that every relationship has experienced it.

If he has a sexual past with her and she's sketchy towards you I wouldn't be ok with it. But if they have never hooked up, and she's nice and open to you, I wouldn't care. So it's really up to you.

I think the double standard is weird. If he isn't comfortable with you having guy friends then he should understand why you are uncomfortable with his girl friends.

Sounds like you both have trust issues that you should talk to a counselor about.

Also nope, Samantha. I completely trust FH and would not be bothered one bit if he had a girl at his bachelor party.